Re: My dad's care (quite long)
- From: "Peter Crosland" <g6jns@xxxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Fri, 7 Nov 2008 08:33:46 -0000
Great web site. Thanks. Thing is, when his house was sold, there wasI know this is way OT (hasn't stopped Bill :-)) and the related NG's
aren't any help, but I'm desperate for some advice. My dad has
alzheimer's and is in a home. The cost of the home has increased by
£200 a month due to his condition getting worse. So now it is £200
more than his pension meaning my brother & I has to forked out for the
extra cost. This isn't easy as neither of us are particularly well
paid and the current financial situation isn't helping at all. The
big problem is, my dad can't have funding even though his capital is
less than £21,000 because he used to own property. My dad sold his
house 18 months ago and moved in with my brother, who bought a bigger
house to accomodate him (using some of his capital). More of dad's
capital was spent on home improvements as well as paying off debts
both me & my brother had. We realise now that that was a bad thing
and his money shouldn't've been used in that way. It's because of
this we do not qualify for funding. We can't find another home under
£500 a week which is ridiculous. So, any ideas? Is it worth going to
Citizen's Advice? Or should it be up to my brother and I to support
his care costs? I probably won't like what I hear, but fire away :-)
There is no legal obligation on relatives to fund care only a moral one.
Go
to the CAB and ask for help.
This might help as well.
http://www.gpss.tripoduk.com/nhscare/
Peter Crosland
no intention of him going in a home within such a short time (if at
all), but it seems that the reason we won't get funding is due to
'deprivation' which is, apparently, illegal. His money wasn't spent
with the intent of getting social services to pay for residential
care, but it's proving it that's the problem.
Local authorities are notorious for trying it on big time in these
circumstances. I speak from personal experience and you need to be very hard
nosed indeed with them. As a rule of thumb disposals more than a year ago
don't count as deprivation particularly in the circumstances you describe.
One tip is not to try dealing with the lower echelons of the council
hierarchy. They are not the ultimate decision makers though they like to
think they are. Also put absolutely everything in writing, and expect the
council officials, particularly the lower orders, to lie through their
teeth. I went as far as to record and then transcribe all phone calls and
sent a copy of the transcriptions to the council with a covering letter
confirming the main points. This did not endear me to them but they soon
realised that they sere under close scrutiny.
Peter Crosland
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