Re: a newbie in need of sympathy?

On Dec 3, 7:37 am, "babypink2...@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx"
<babypink2...@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
On 2 Dec, 10:18, "jomadgw...@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx"

<jomadgw...@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
On 1 Dec, 09:15, "babypink2...@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx"

I didn't know what to do... Snooty woman gives the horses on our bit
of yard their breakfasts every morning. (They have it all together
etc..). I didn't want to be churlish and just feed my horse yet, I
didn't want to put myself in any position to be critisised again...
for doing the 'right' thing.
I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't!! So I did. I fed them
all, as I did again this morning. Put my baby out to graze, did my
jobs n went home....

Easiest thing to do is just to leave a little note on the feed room or
stable door to say feb the horses, allhappy blah blah blah and sign
off.

Therefore they know you have fed them all and the horses are all happy
and the message has got through. Then you are not in a situation and
all bases are covered.

Everyone happy!

Thanks Clare and all.
I will update you if you don't mind.

I am off to germany this weekend with my mum to have a look around the
xmas markets. Have booked it for a while etc.. arranged with ex best
friend that she would help look after booboo, as well as me paying
someone on the yard to help out (fair enough as this is what she
does). Fall out happens with mate so paid other person to do all
booboo for me.

She came over to me today to confirm feed and all she needed to do
over the weekend. We got chatting and all seemed well. I told her I
was happy to pay for her to do booboo and keep it all above board,
after the fiasco of the other day. She told me that she was unhappy
about it coz I hadn't apologised to HER!! Hello????
She explained that the ill aged horse could have died that night and
she was responsible for putting her out in the field.
I got a bit angry with her and asked why I needed to apologise to
her?? Or to anyone come to that.

She explained that if it were her she would have done it differently.
I explained that it wasn't her - or anyone else and I wasn't going to
apologise for something I believed to be the right thing to have
done!!
She saw my point in the end when I told her about snooty cow talking
down to me which made me think that I was inadequate and left her to
it and I went home.

She apologised to me. She told me that she had told the others that I
had a good heart and would not have done anything unwarranted -
I think you would have been proud of me at how I handled this. I told
her how unhappy all their behaviour had made me feel and that I had
lined up 2 other yards to go to. I said it was a shame that she
didn't come and tell me this instead of ignoring me and giving me the
cold shoulder. I wasn't happy about bitchy girly playground rubbish,
which included an 80yr old woman.
She said that in an ideal world she would have her own yard without
all the nonsense, on her own etc.

That's all very well and good, I said but it doesn't take away the
fact that they (and she) made my life a misery and I was not going to
put myself in any position like that again.
I told her that I had learnt at least one lesson from all of this.
That I will NOT be putting myself out for anyone ever again. I will
go down and just to my own. IF I need help - for holidays etc. I will
be happy to pay for someone to do my horse for me. If not her then
someone from outside. I made it clear that I don't want favours or be
beholden to anyone.

She did tell me that she would be happy to turn out or bring in as a
'mate'. I said thanks but not to be offended that I offer her money
for doing so.

I wasn't horrid or nasty or even confrontational, just clear.
I am sick of being a doormat and scapegoat. I understand the owners
feelings but that is no excuse to 'blame' me.

OOOhhhh it feels good to be in control of one's emotions again. I
know I did the right thing and I see no reason to apologise for that.
I am sorry that the horse is ill but if it was that ill that it could
have died, it shouldn't have been left out or at least, the owner
should have been there. Not my responsibility.

Hey - all this gabbling is down to you lot. Sorry I have rambled on
but I am so 'pleased' with myself and it's all thanks to you lot
giving me confidence.

THANK YOU!!!

HUGS
XXXXX
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