Re: Not driving related but I want your advice.

gazzafield wrote:
> On Fri, 29 Jul 2005 09:46:55 +0100, MrBitsy wrote:
>
>> As I "know" you all after 4 years on thr group, I would appreciate
>> some advice.
>>
>> Over the last month, 3 of my sons mates have decided to shout and
>> yell when they pass our house at 2am, on the way back from a local
>> night club. Each time we have been woking up as they call out to my
>> son (asleep in bed) on their way past.
>>
>> Two nights ago, I was asleep in bed when they turn up in a car to
>> pick my son up. They decide to stand on the pavement to chat, rather
>> than sitting in the car. This goes on for 10 minutes, with the chat
>> getting louder and louder. Eventually, at midnight, one of them
>> shouts out loud for my son to hurry up. This was too much for me so
>> I opened the window and told them to piss off otherwise I would come
>> down and help them on their way.
>>
>> Yes, a little over the top maybe, but I have asked my son to tell
>> them to keep the noise down on several occasions. I also have the
>> neighbours to worry about also. I just snapped on this occasion.
>>
>> Last night at 12am, the phone rings. I pick it up and hear two of my
>> sons mates talking to each other, so I don't say anything. They hung
>> up and two minutes later a car screaches to a halt outside, somebody
>> gets out, runs down the path to loudly knock on the door. They run
>> back to the car, wheelspin away while given the horn plenty for 10
>> seconds.
>>
>> My two sons were staying at a girlfriends 50 miles away last night.
>> I am unsure the best way to proceed.
>>
>> 1.. Do nothing and they will lose interest.
>> 2.. Talk to my son to have a word with them.
>> 3.. Have a word with them myself by visiting their houses (all live
>> with parents)
>> 4.. Give them a slap, maybe this is more likely to end it than 1.
>> 5.. Talk to the police.
>> 6.. Other suggestions.
>>
>> Apologies for going off topic, but I do feel like I know you all!
>
>
>
> I do believe your son is 19, is this correct? If so, kick him out to
> go and stay with one of his "friends". It may sound harsh but you
> might find a change of attitude.

Bit late jumping in on this one, but I did read the thread with interest
last night. We have teenager problems ourselves.

A couple of points. First, if your son doesn't want to be kicked out, there
is no way you are going to manage it. Most likely he will camp out under
your security light, or bang on the door all night. Sooner rather than later
you will weaken and let him in again. Second, I think the best thing to do
is buy some ear plugs. Your son will be powerless to alter their behaviour,
and in any case it would be deeply "uncool" for him to pass on your
comments. Remonstrating with people like that only escalates the situation.
Involving the police will most likely achieve absolutely nothing. Going to
see their parents is risky - after all they are their "little darlings" who
most likely "can do no wrong".

HTH.

Brian


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