Re: I give up!
- From: "lu-lu" <lu@xxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Wed, 9 Apr 2008 17:14:24 +0100
"bob drew" <ray.jones41@xxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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Hi everyone, it's me again,opened
Well, things are getting worse for me. I told you all about how my wife
trears me etc, well its come to the point I just cant take anymore.
I wish I could move out, but I have absolutely nowhere at all to go, apart
from living rough.
This past month has been a night mare for me. We came back of a enjoyable
short break (5 days) and when we arrived home everything was fine, I
the boot of the car to start unpacking, and my wife said "leave that forkitchen
now, lets have a cup of tea first"
So we went in the house and put the kettle on. I was sat down at the
table minding my own business, when all of a sudden, out of the blue shelike
remarks " the milk is in the car, I'll get it, you sit on your fat arse
you always do" ????acts
That was on march the 17th, since then she has totally ignored me, she
as though I don't exist, Honestly it's driving me crazy, the other night Ireplied,
started thinking to myself, perhaps I am dead, and she cant see me in the
house. She acts as though I simply do not exist.
The only time she has uttered a word was on the 20th march, when I said,
"whats the matter love, why aren't you talking to me, to which she
"because I hate the sight of you" I said "why? we were happy together notso
long ago", she replied, "you must have me mixed up with someone else, Ihave
nevr been happy since I maried you".talk
Another thing, her brother aged 50 died of a heart attack suddenly in his
sleep, (god rest his soul) After a few days later she said to me, "Its not
fair, you survived your heart attack"
Plus she has told me she wished I had died when I had my heart attack.
So there you are, that's how my life is!
To be honest, I wish I had died as well, death couldn't be any worse then
this living hell.
Sorry to burden you all with my problems, but I have nobody else I can
to to "get it off my chest" so to speak.
And the doctors wonder why I have Major depression.
I ask myself very often " what the hell have I done to deserve this?"
It's a ridiculous situation, I am 56 years old and the tears are streaming
down my face as I write this.
Bob
Is she lashing out because she's hurting and feels unsupported? I'm guessing
she was devastated by her brother's death, and probably needs help to grieve
properly, maybe with counselling. With the comment about the milk in the
car, how much do you support her round the house? Not that I'm saying you
deserve such a remark,. but when my husband's on a lazy one, and I don't
feel that he's helping enough with our daughter/animals/housework/general
life, I'll make a bitchy comment too.
One thing's for sure, you both certainly need to change the situation. It
sounds like she has depression of her own, and maybe needs help for that.
I'd also recommend that you try something like marriage counselling so that
you can learn to communicate with each other, and have fun together, rather
than just not speaking to each other. You need to find out what it is you
want in life, and what it is she wants. If it's the same things, work on it
with plenty of outside help. If not, approach your local council or CAB for
housing advice.
Good luck
Lucy x
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