Re: My destiny will remain unknown

Rowland McDonnell wrote:
Sam UK <sam@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:

Rowland McDonnell wrote:

I simply am unable to face life anymore living like this, it is a living
hell.
I wish I was as brave as you.
Er, excuse me. There's nothing brave about running away from all your
problems /and/ abandoning your children.

His youngest child is an adult of 19 years. So that's not an issue.

Poppy***. You are so full of *** Rowlikins


He blames his wife for everything

No he doesn't.

`Not entirely her fault perhaps, but all in all if I wasn't with her I think my depression would not exist.'

So he blames his wife for most of it.



is what he said. `not entirely her fault'. Pretty clear if you ask me.

But what of it? This is a support group. He's in a bad way. Have you
no heart?

This from someone who's driven many vulnerable souls away from here with his neanderthal bullying.


I don't see that you're in any position to make any
judgements on his wife - you seem to want to defend her and attack him
just because he complained about his wife.

So you're allowed to defend him when you are not in a position to do so
but Sam's wrong for wanting to defend her?!

Heads Sam loses tails Rowlikins wins eh ?




But this newsgroup is
supposed to be for support, not for sorting out relationship problems.


Did Sam say she was sorting out relationship problems ? No she didn't.



And you don't seem to be willing to accept that it's entirely likely
that his wife is pretty much entirely responsible for his depression.

You know as little as Sam does about this man and his wife and yet in typical dull witted and arrogant Rowlikins style you assume she is wrong.
It could just as easily be you who's got it wrong.


Can you not imagine a couple who don't get on, staying together for the
sake of the children? Because that's what's happened. And in such
cases - well, one party or the other tends to suffer badly.


Depression can make one think in irrational and in negatively revisionist ways ie 'my marriage is wrong' when it may not be, 'she is mostly to blame' when that may not be the case.
Making important decisions when you are depressed and not necessarily thinking clearly is not a good idea.

''I am taking the least amount with me that I can, I shall have my
mountaineering tent, sleeping-bag, stove,kettle,cup,plate,fork Hunting knife
and hand gun. (Fully licensed) plus 75 rounds of ammo.

I have absolutely no idea where I shall go, all I know is, I have to go.

I shall live like a tramp, but not look like a trap if you know what I mean.
I'm not short of a few bob and have enough put by to last me for quite some
years if needed.

I do not intent to take ANY medication at all with me, and that includes my medication for my heart disease''


The above is not the kind of thinking of someone for whom thinking sensibly is currently at the forefront of his mind.



And I've known a few men who have become almost entirely different
people after divorcing or in one case having his wife die (of entirely
natural causes). Different, as in `enjoying life'. Sometimes, a wife
does make her husband's life hell through no fault of the man. It
happens.


That may be true but all you can really do is surmise that that is the case in this instance.


but there are two sides to every story,

That's not a relevant point.

Rowlikins has spoken Hail Rowlikins the emperor with no clothes.


This isn't a counselling session, nor a
`Relate' session. He's not come here to have his problems solved, nor
to get mediation between him and his wife or anything. He's just come
here to say how he feels.

Would we really be helping him by not raising the possibility that his thinking in this matter may be faulty?

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