Re: Love

On Jan 15, 4:08 am, real-address-in-...@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx (Rowland
McDonnell) wrote:
Chrissy <cv.spen...@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
serious post, how can I stop myself falling in love again?

Don't make the attempt.  That'll lead to disaster.  Better to work out
how to handle it better, I reckon.

really I'm
such a dim-wit, still loving the last bloke & now falling in love with
another on-line already & meeting a third on Friday.

Umm.  Sounds like infatuation to me, that does.

Bloody ridiculous!

Not completely so, I don't think.  Anyway, you're definitely an
attractive woman on-line[1], so I can see how this sort of thing happens
at least from the bloke's point of view.

I'm acting like a complete moron & must stop this
nonsense - "get thee to a nunnery"

I don't see why - why not try to manage things slightly more sensibly so
you can avoid whatever the problems are that you're getting?

No, really, any advice for a very foolish middle-aged woman?

I'm afraid not.  What could I say?  I've no idea at all what emotional
processes go on inside anyone except me, with a minor option on having a
faint clue with chaps of a similar background.

But: seems to me that you're suffering from a need of some sort, and
this tendency to get yourself infatuated is linked to it.

I can't be more specific than that, I'm afraid (at least, not without
being annoying and largely missing the point, I suspect).  Maybe you can
figure it out?

Rowland.

[1]  Point one: I'm admitting nothing.  Point two: I'm *certain* I'm
right.  And for anyone else: no, I've never met Chrissy, nor am I likely
to.

Thanks Rowland, I've stabilised now, & am truly over whatever it was,
as you say infatuation.
You were spot on about the perceived 'need' I had, took some time last
night, when I couldn't sleep, to try to logically go over exactly
*what* I was feeling/thinking & why.

I feel tons better for the reflection, not only am I really feeling
positive about everything, I also feel I've 'grown' a bit more (though
doubtless still have lots more to do)
Not only am I content with having experienced the relationship, I'm
very happy that it ended, it really was in my best interests but I
don't tend to see what's in my best interests, leaving it all too
often to chance.

BTW thank you so much for the somewhat surprising compliment :o)

Chrissy
.