Re: Hello.


"fergus" <ferguscapewrath@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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On Sun, 11 Mar 2007 10:27:39 GMT, "lock, stock and 2 smoking monkfish"
<mancamera@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:

It's a crazy world.


Only because we have made it that way.

We *are* that way.


True - but it doesn't have to be like this.

We are capable of so much more.


I guess i should have said, "Find someone with whom you can have a healthy
relationship - and if that's not possible, you're better off on your own."

I would much rather be on my own than to waste my time driving myself
crazy(-er) trying to make someone love me who doesn't - and perhaps
can't -
love anyone, not even herself.

Yes, I'd much rather be on my own than stuck in a bad relationship.
Although, after 10 years, even I start to wonder.


Which is to be expected whilst all the possibilities for growth and
development a relationship makes possible are frozen like this.

Likewise, we would not consider to be a 'complete' person the individual who
from a very young age went from one relationship to another without the
slightest pause between them.

S/he would not have spent enough time on his/her to develop a full and
complete inner sense of subjectivity. (This distinction between spending
time by oneself and speanding time with other people is what Sartre refers
to when he talks about "being-for-itself" and "being-for-others").

Either extreme - always being alone or never being alone - is not healthy
and is bound to give rise to a certain amount of dissatisfaction.

Maybe you need a bad relationship to remind yourself that you would rather
be single. Then you could begin to regard your status as a singleton to be
something you have chosen, rather than something that has been foisted upon
you.



monkfish


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