Re: That feeling

On 2006-06-21 14:33:50 +0100, "monkfish" <fonkmish@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> said:


"Zomoniac" <the_proper_one@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message news:4fsuc0F1k5lcnU1@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
On 2006-06-21 13:39:40 +0100, "monkfish" <fonkmish@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> said:


"Zomoniac" <the_proper_one@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message news:4fsksvF1l0k65U1@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Where something *** happens, and try as you might, weeks later you can't get it out of your head for a second, and you find yourself sitting in a room staring blankly at a wall for hours. Whenever you try to do something fun to distract yourself from it, you still can't think about anything else, and you're sick to fucking death of crying yourself to sleep.

How does one make it stop?


Oh, *that* feeling, i know it well : (

You might want to try writing prose, poetry, or usenet posts about what happened and what you are feeling.

If you prefer, you could try painting or writing music.

It generally helps to have something constructive to do with these feelings. By doing something useful with the pain, you tend to gain a certain perspective on it. It's cathartic. It's a release.

Rather than merely suffering from them, you enter into a relationship with them.

I know this is probably crap advice.

Hope you are feeling better soon

Thanks, I've been sitting all morning clicking refresh on this group :)


I know *that* feeling, as well ; )


I'd rather not post on Usenet about what happened. The person that this is about is a Usenet reader, and other people on Usenet know them, and I care about them dearly and wouldn't want people to hate them.


Fair enough.

I was in a similar position, which was made worse by the fact that i had no one in real life with whom i could confer.

Same here. Some people know the situation and hate them. Others don't know, and I don't want them to, for their protection.

What i did was: a) go to a newsgroup he did not read and would never have any earthly reason to read;

They have been known to subscribe to every depression/suicide group on the net.

b) i tried to talk only about /my feelings/ rather than about the personal details of my friend's life (which would be gossiping); and

I'm trying to do that, but without people knowing what's happened, it's hard for them to help, and I can't tell anyone what's happened!

c) to give him an alias so no one else would know who i'm talking about - they can have suspicions, of course, but can never know for sure.

We're a very well known couple on certain parts of Usenet. They got severely depressed a while ago and posted on a suicide group asking for advice. A regular on one of the groups where everyone knows us and our relationship, was a lurker there, and he was worried so told me. Everyone who knows me knows who I'm talking about. I think they've unsubscribed from all these groups, but may have rejoined since recent events, I don't know. I'm using 'they' as an alias though :)

Then again, what do i know?

More than me :)

Against all my expectations, my friend tracked me down to this other newsgroup, read all my posts, and was pretty pissed off at me for talking about him behind his back. But he was pretty pissed off with me at that point, anyway.

It's a tough situation.

Damn right. But they've said I need help, and I can only get it by referring to them, and I don't want to do that.


I've tried the writing. For some reason when I get depressed it gives me writer's block, rather than inspiration, which is really crap, but I will try it again.


I find, when my depression or anxiety gives me writer's block, i end up writing about my depression or my anxiety. It's excellent writing practise, in my experience.

I might give it a try tonight.


Whether the advice turns out crap or great, thank you for replying.


No problemo : )

You = Big Star :)


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