Re: "Recovery Options for the New Year"


"V" <vfr44@xxxxxxx> wrote in message
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> The New Year is coming up and many of us make New Year's resolutions,
> so I'd like to take this time to awaken those in need to some options
> for recovery if you suffer from addictions as I do. I do not need to
> wait to the years end to take self survey, since doing written
> inventory work and introspection is part of my 12 step work. I started
> with 12 step programs in 1974 and am now in 8 - 12 step programs
> myself. The 12 step programs branched out from Alcoholics Anonymous and
> all operate more or less along the same principles of the 12 Steps and
> 12 Traditions of AA.
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> A thing is addictive for me when I lose control of it and the addiction
> has control of me. Is the activity placing unreasonable demands on my
> time and energy, will it place me in legal jeopardy or endanger my
> mental, physical or spiritual health? There are more specific questions
> that each 12 step program uses in its literature that can guide you.
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> We must remember that not having control over a certain area once in a
> a while does not make a person an addict. Even normal people drink too
> much once in a while, normal people might eat too much once in a while
> and normal people spend or have sex or spend too much once in a while.
> The difference between addicts and normal people is, normal people can
> stop when they see they have gone too far, whereas addicts cannot stop
> even under penalty of death.
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> An important thing to remember with recovery is the 3-D's: Desire,
> Determination and Diligence.
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> Desire:
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> Desire is the foundation for all recovery quests. You cannot help
> someone without the desire in them to be helped. Desire is what gets us
> taking that first step in the right direction when all seems hopeless.
> Have you every tried to give advice or help someone in need and they
> respond: "I don't care." They lack the desire or at least this is what
> they say. Desire must come from within, you cannot force someone to
> change, they must change themselves. But, before a desire to change can
> be manifested, one must come to a "realization" that a change needs to
> occur in ones life.
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> Determination:
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> Determination serves two purposes here. When something is "determined"
> it is accepted as fact. We have determined that we are powerless over
> our addiction and our lives are unmanageable. We have determined we
> must abstain from certain people, places or things that we cannot
> comfortably have in our lives. We are in the process of determining a
> new set of rules on how to live. We have also determined what injuries
> we have caused and what needs to be repaired through taking personal
> inventory.
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> Determination serves a second purpose and that is it keeps us on the
> long road to recovery. We cannot keep on this long road without being
> determined to change our lives day in day out. Whether it is debt
> recovery, clutter, restructuring our complex lives or losing weight it
> all takes time and determination to stay on the path of recovery. Many
> distractions, detours and set backs along the way, but we should always
> be determined to keep pointed in the direction of recovery.
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> Diligence:
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> Diligence keeps us from going backwards once we finally arrive at the
> recovery place we are aiming for. It takes diligence once we get to
> where we want to be to maintain that serene spot, otherwise we fall
> back on our old "natural" ways of living. Once you get sober and
> abstinent from your drug of choice, once you lose the fat, once you pay
> off your debts, once you clean up the clutter, it takes diligence to
> keep you that way.
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> Most of the following 12 Step programs are on the web via a search.
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> ADD / ADHD Anonymous
> Adult Children of Alcoholics
> Alcoholics Anonymous
> Al-Anon & Ala-Teen
> Arts Anonymous
> BODA (Business Owners DA)
> Cancer Anonymous
> Clutterers Anonymous
> Co-Anon
> Cocaine Anonymous
> Co-Dependents of Sex Addicts
> CODA (Codependents Anon)
> Compulsive Eaters Anonymous / H.O.W.
> Computer Addicts Anonymous
> Couples Anonymous
> Crystal Meth Anonymous
> Debtors Anonymous
> Divorce Anonymous
> Dual Recovery Anonymous
> Emotions Anonymous
> Emotional Health Anonymous
> Families Anonymous
> Fear Of Success Anonymous
> Food Addict Anonymous
> Gam-Anon
> Gamblers Anonymous
> Herpes Anonymous
> He-She Anonymous
> HIV Anonymous
> Incest Survivors Anonymous
> Jews in Recovery
> Lesbians Anonymous
> Marijuana Anonymous
> Manic Depressive Anonymous
> Messies Anonymous
> Money Anonymous
> Nar-Anon Family Groups
> Narcotics Anonymous NA
> Nicotine Anonymous meetings
> Nine Step Pagans (I won't discriminate even if they only use 9 steps.)
> Overachievers Anonymous
> Overeaters Anonymous
> Obsessive Compulsive Anonymous
> Parents Anonymous
> Pills Anonymous
> Procrastinators Anonymous
> Rageaholics Anonymous
> Recoveries Anonymous
> Trauma Anonymous
> Twelve Steps for Pagans
> S-Anon
> Sex Addicts Anonymous
> Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous
> Sexaholics Anonymous
> Sexual Compulsives Anonymous
> Spenders Anonymous
> Survivors of Incest Anonymous
> Vulgarity Anonymous
> Vulganon
> Workaholics Anonymous
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> Wishing You All a Healthy and Peaceful New Year,
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> V (Male)
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> A Christian-Buddhist practitioner living a life of Voluntary Simplicity
> and grateful recovering Debtor, Drug, Alcohol and Substance Abuser,
> Compulsive Overeater, Clutterer, Hoarder, Rageaholic, Speculative
> Gambler, Compulsive Spender, Sex and Sensation Addict.
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There is a 'messies anonymous'? I think i may need this. If it doesn't
mean something else which in my naivete i am not aware of.

No depressives anonymous, however. I for one would very much like there to
be some kind of group locally where 'having depression' doesn't mean you're
just some saddo pathetic heap. Not to talk about depression etc, but just
to have it taken as read and then move on from that point into making
friends and doing stuff. With it understood that some days you just can't
(and you don't have to make excuses). I know i totally isolate myself when
i'm down (and when i'm not, because i just feel that folks would think me a
weirdo and not want me around). But to have a place where everyone was in
the same boat as a starter i think would really help. Some place you could
just be yourself (instead of having to keep up the happy facade eg at work).

I know this isn't exactly what the anonymous fellowships are about, but it
just sparked this in me. Anyone have anything of this kind in their area?
I did contact Depressive Alliance but they don't have any groups up here
yet.

fi


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