Re: Well. That went well, didn't it.

In message <6mjn9gFghpd9U2@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>, Siderius Nuncius <matron.nuncius@xxxxxxxxx> writes
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I agree that Peggy is being unrealistic. I also agree that her response is
very plausible; she wouldn't believe - probably with good reason - that
anyone could would know Jack's needs and look after him as well as she did.
It's hard for her to accept that she just can't do it now.

We're agreed there.

I do think, though, that she's absolutely right to be furious about the way
Lilian, Jenny and Tony put Jack in the respite home without even informing
her. Of course she'll feel betrayed - she has been, and of course they
should have told her first. They may have had to insist, and possibly do it
anyway against Peggy's will, but saying "I'm sorry you disagree, but this is
the only way we can cope with the situation for the next two weeks," would

At which point, she'd have discharged herself. Or something equal. Thus forcing the others into either accepting that action, or attempting to have her declared unsound (as she obviously couldn't look after Jack in her current condition - probably not even herself), which gets extremely nasty, and certainly far worse than the betrayal already perpetrated.

have been better than lying (as Jenny did, to Peggy's face) and then telling
her that they'd done something different. I don't blame Peggy for not
trusting anything they say now: you cannot deceive someone like that and

Nor do I, I just understand why they did it.

then expect them to take everything you say at face value afterward. Once
trust is broken it takes a long time to get back, and may never fully
return.

It has badly muddied the waters: saying to Peggy now "you aren't well enough
to look after him" is true, but she doesn't want to hear it and having been
deceived once she's going to be even less likely to believe what she's being
told now.

It was badly done, indeed!

Probably - but casting the first stone and all that: how would you have done it?
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