Re: Just so you know

> I have the advantage of being on the outside, looking in.
> (Btw, I'm disinclined to write long essays, and I'm aware
> that I'm not able to write clearly-yet-succinctly, so if
> you don't get what I'm saying, please ask.)

Your writing is fine. Your thoughts are, er, um, thoughtful. I
don't know the definition of 'succinctly' myself. I thought
that was obvious. I think it was Oscar Wilde who famously
ended a letter with something like 'I'm sorry this is such a
long letter but I didn't have time to write you a short one'.
I know exactly what he meant.

> Wordsworth (I think) asked "What is life if, full of
> care, we have no time to stand and stare?"

You have hit upon one of my motivations for being here and
visiting Cumbria when I get an opportunity (or engineer one).
Pure self-indulgence. Making time for myself.

> I suspect you are "full of care", or - to be metaphorical -
> firmly convinced that, if you dared to take your hands
> of the wheel, the ship would immediately sink.
> You are "Super-Dad"! <#duh duh daaaaa>

I have a super-mom wife so if anything, I rely on her too
much. I am a responsible person by nature: can't help that. So
I do what I can to help at home. I do what I can to make my
clients happy. I do what is right for my 84 year-old mother
even if it makes her miserable. And I do what I can to stay
alive. Each one of these areas is a lot of responsibility in
itself and a lot of work. I'm spread too thin. I realised that
about a year ago when, for the first time in my life, I
couldn't make anyone happy. "doing what you can" isn't always
enough. Being a nice guy or being well intentioned isn't
enough. But you just keep going. Because you can't just give
up.

> My recommendation would be; an early night,
> some relaxation exercises and the matra "f*ck
> it - the world won't end if I leave _that_ 'till tomorrow."

That's not my mantra. That's my daily strategy with about 80%
of what is on my plate for that day. My father taught me there
is always a 'do nothing' option.

> (How did I do?)

Not bad. You didn't have much to work on. I only talk about my
selfless fathering online. I seldom talk about mom or work or
my health here. There no funny material there. Everyone has
kids and wives or remembers being a kid. So I mention them
from time to time.

I make myself out to be over-whelmed for fun. It's easy to
fake when you actually are.

Satisfied?

Johnny-comes-clean-about-life-in-general
.

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