Re: Late father's dignity

On Tue, 24 Feb 2009 15:38:13 +0000, buzhaodiao
<buzhaodiao.3ea19c2@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:

Thanks Cynic for your opinion. Unfortunately, my fil died suddenly. He
would think his statement/letter to his family was sufficient. I don't
think my poor dad were able to see his beloved wife would do that kind
of things (don't want to go into details).

But what moral right do you have to any of the money that he had?

Unfortunately my mil's situation has a great impact on my and my
husband's life. She was talking about moving in with us!

And exactly *how* is she able to make that decision without your
consent? Does she own the property you are living in? If not, simply
tell her that she may not move in. If so, try to find another place
so that she no longer has that hold over you.

(She diverts
all her docs to my husband to deal with and doesn't even know how to
take cash out of the bank or take bus/train) If she messes up her life,
no doubt, there's a great chance that my life will be messed up by her.
I can't live her life for her, but I do have the rights to protect
mine.

ISTM that her new boyfriend should be a godsend to you - *he* can take
over those things.

I am really struggling to understand. You have no legal
responsibility toward your mil and certainly do not have to do
anything she asks you to do. You do not *have* to do anything at all
for her. You don't even have to see her at all.

ISTM that either you have an issue with your husband's actions, or you
are dependent in some way on your mil. If the latter is the case,
then it is up to you to become independent.

It's easy to say "stop judging", if you are not in this situation.

No doubt your mil would say the same thing.

--
Cynic


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