Re: Ex-gf is pregnant and claims baby is mine = impossible!

On 30 May, 19:24, Palindrome <m...@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
TimB wrote:
On 30 May, 17:19, Palindrome <m...@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:

Personally, I lean towards the notion that, if you aren't married to the
father and you were a willing participant at the time - it's all yours.
Call me old fashioned...

If it's *all* yours, why do you expect the father to pay for it?

Erm, where did I intimate that the (unmarried) father should pay a penny?

Granted - I made an assumption based on the direction this thread
seems to be headed in.

I'm of the view that parenthood is a huge responsibility, and
something that *both* partners need to be prepared to enter into. If
one person is allowed to unilaterally decide to keep the child, when
the pregnancy was discovered early enough for termination to be an
option, I see no reason for the absent parent to have to pay.

If they were married when the pregnancy took place, then both parents
should pay, according to their means. If they weren't married, then see
above..

Then we're agreed here.


I'm also of the view that this should work both ways. If the father
wants the child and the mother doesn't, the mother should lose the
option to terminate the pregnancy, and the father allowed to take
custody on the same terms once the child is born.

I can't agree with that. It's her body - how are you going to stop her
harming the (unwanted) baby? If she is willing to murder it, she
presumably wouldn't draw the line at harming it in other ways.. If the
baby is born severely disabled because of her actions..

In an ideal world, that's how it *should* work. Practically speaking,
I admit there is no real way to achieve this. So the next best thing
is to remove the option for one party to make a unilateral decision
which can and does have a very negative effect on the other party for
many years to come.

I also vote for extending pregnancy from 9 months to at least a few
years, to make sure both parties have enough time to fully appreciate
the consequences of their actions and make any necessary legal
challenges. For now though, let's just work with what we've got :-)

.

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