Re: stepdaughter taking over


shell wrote:
I don't suppose that the stepdaughter would agree to shared care for
now? Just wondering if you could suggest it as if you were concerned
for her needs. You know that "you realise at 19 she needs a
life/friends/boyfriend and you only want to help her as it must be
stressful having to care for a child at such a young age" ect. If she
agreed at least you would be able to ensure your daughter was cared for
as much as you can and it may give you a better footing for custody
later on.


Well Shell at the moment she [the stepdaughter, UNMARRIED] has a child
of her own - 8 months old, no need for her to have parental rights over
my daughter leaving me excluded because of her mums stupidity.

She [the stepdaughter] also has a boyfriend, no need for another
youngster looking after my daughter when my daughter is crying for her
real father, one who is waiting on the sidelines.

I have tried speaking to the mother about this, not parental
responsibilities, thats to follow..The Stepdaughter [she is no relation
to me it's just a term I'm using to make things easier to understand].
The mother if anything goes against what she says she's ill or your
being stroppy or terse...In short she refuses to let anyone speak! I
know what I should do I'm 37 years old not 18-19, my own mother whom I
decided to take as a witness told me she thinks the mother and
stepdaughter are up to something...

Anyway on one of my visits I hear the step daughter is moving into a 3
bedroomed house, her, her boyfriend and my daughter...I did say
something about helping decorate but as they are up to something the
lights were on a nobody was in.

I'm told in a later phone call, I reckon she has a problem as she asks
- Are you sure you dont have something in the back of your mind you
have a problem with...TOTALLY CONFRONTATIONAL, she then went on to say
we dont need your help.

In my books that is out of order, I've been nothing but nice and
perhaps she sees me as an intruder but as it is my daughter is my
daughter, her half sister is not an object, she needs a father - That
shell is the short and fast of it.

As for the rest well I see my daughter being brought up with the
pretext that because i never had a father then neither should you! They
are also trying to be quite difficult by not speaking or telling me
that everthing I say goes over their heads and stopping at that. My
daughter needs me.

My intention are I've got the parental responsibilities form, that
needs signing if my ex girlfriend fails to sign or if parental
responsibilities have been handed over to the daughter, she's probably
her guardian at 18-19...The mother only gets 3 hours access and
occasionally through the week, the detals I'm not 100% sure of,
hopefully if she still has parental responsibilities and will sign
without any fuss, if not then I'll get the courts involved and
hopefully this will get some airtime in the courts...

From what I can gather from the situation my daughter wants me, need me
but the mother and the daughter have obviously got something going and
are trying to confuse the situation, making it difficult for you to
talk to them.

I mean what would you say, your ex girlfriend decides she is going to
town, you offer her a lift as it is on your way...On the way you are
told she is going to visit an alcoholic, male recovering....I felt like
telling her sh's a f***ing idiot...but I reckon this is another one of
her evil games she will probably forget as her ilness kicks in!

The only future I can see is one of going round house to house, with a
tough luck attitude...

Me I believe I can offer my daughter a slightly brighter future.

.

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