Re: Court order for child support

Schrodingers Cat wrote:
> although I was naive enough to beleive in being open and fair once...
>>
>> Just take care.
>
> Yep...me too! I went to CSA as a NRP due to mothers
> inconsistencies..eg "Pay me more money or you never see your son
> again" and then "who cares about money as long as you be the best
> 'remote' Dad you can.!

Ummm.....the money and access aren't linked. You can pay a fortune and she
still has exactly the same power to say both those things.
Or restrict/cancel contact.

Whether you paid her £500 a week or never a penny in your life, the court
would deal with access issues pretty much the same.

> As we were never married I have no rights at all to him. She has
> changed his surname from mine to hers...makes all decisions regarding
> his upbringing with no input from me. If, when he is in my care and
> he is taken ill, I cannot give consent for drugs to be administered
> etc...I have to seek his mothers permission...So my son could be
> dying in hospital whilst I'm trying to get hold of her whilst she
> isout spending the money that I sent for his upkeep....:-(

Did you ever apply for parental responsibility? Never heard of it not being
granted, if applied for.


>
> Son lives in N. Ireland with his Mom...I live in Northants. I don't
> object to paying for my sons upkeep but what I do object to is how do
> I know that it is being spent on him and the fact that CSA reckon I'm
> not entitled to a variation even though a weekend visiting my son
> costs around £450...

You never get to say how someone is spending money.
If the child is neglected, there are things in place for that. But unless
something like that happens, adults are free to spend money how they want.



> Like the man says....be very careful !
>
> Also I have recently noticed that even though it was me that
> applied...the "application" are a;ways refered top as being
> attributed to my sons Mother. When I queried this I was told that it
> was just the way the system was set up as NRP applying to pay CSA
> were as rare as rocking horse *** and therefore the system was not
> geared towards them. (Hmmm...if thats the case how come did I
> complete a computer generated form as a NRP?)

Logic and CSA don't go together very well.
NRP applying is rare - its like handing a deranged maniac a knife, you won't
always like the results.

Martin <><
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http://www.cashisallyouneed.co.uk/


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