Re: RESPECT
- From: "Julian" <Julianlzb87@xxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Tue, 10 Jul 2007 13:32:33 +0100
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On Jul 10, 3:49 am, "Evelyn Ruut" <evelyn.r...@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:"Hollywood Lee" <hollywood...@xxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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> George Cherry wrote:
>> Over many years of practice Thomas White evolved some guidelines >> which,
>> when practiced, boil down to one word: RESPECT. The bottom line is >> that
>> if we inculcate the character trait of respect into our cultures, we >> find
>> that rules and guidelines aren't needed, because when people are
>> respectful, they will do the things in the guidelines/rules. However,
>> the rules/guidelines help create the ultimate culture manifesting
>> respect. Eventually, all effective practices seem to come from
>> fundamental human values. So, that gives us a place to start with any
>> situation we'd like to improve.
>> Seven of the Ten Commitments of Group Work are here: Guidelines for
>> Solution Oriented Meetings are here:
>> 1. No criticism, blame, or defensiveness
>> 2. Cooperate in finding solutions
>> 3. Build on other people's ideas
>> 4. Allow others' ideas to trigger new thoughts in you
>> 5. Inject humor into the process
>> 6. Arrive at the meeting early
>> 7. Sit quietly for a few minutes and reflect on the purpose of the
>> meeting
>> When mutual respect exists, enthusiasm will be great for whatever >> process
>> is adopted .
>> This has turned out to be a dynamite brainstorming process based on my
>> personal experience, and the experience of many others, in using it.
> There is much about this that I would like to agree with - but I > wonder.
> To turn your intro inside out, it may be that for those who would agree
> with this list, the list is unnecessary, and for those whom it is
> necessary, they would never agree.
Probably true, but there are some people (I am one) who tend to like
reminders (or admonitions) in a concise form like that. Helps one remain
focused or centered.
--
Best Regards,
Evelyn
hi Ev,
jeepers we're both up too dang early or late... ;>
i think Lee had a good point - those given to a *growly* approach to
social interaction would reject the list George quotes before even
reading to point three....so it's sort of a preaching to the choir,
which, as you note, is not a waste or a bad thing.
All that being said i think i do object to the stance of the author
George quotes. The quoted author seems to think that censuring the
range of discussion will lead to more satisfaction in communication,
exchange of ideas, etc. we have all seen over the years how neither
freedom or censure are solutions to disagreement. People have been
being obstreperous since there were people. People will criticize,
blame, and/or be defensive if anyone tries to ban them or not - better
to get it all out in the open and deal with it.....Point two is
ok....Point three - no, sometimes an idea has to noted as an oops to
avoid a long process of trying to apply an apple to an orange....4 is
good, 5 not so much - sometimes humor can be a dodge, etc etc ...point
6 arrive late and see how all the proceedings have *seemed* to follow
a gradual logical progression but arrived at nonsense...
good intention, lousy list. too many thou shalt nots and thou musts.
Early Buddhism was excessively moral in tone
and pedantically trivial in both precept and practice
and one can't help feeling some sympathy with Subhadra
who, on hearing of the Buddha's death, sighed with relief,
relaxed and serenely said...
'Now we shan't have to do this and not do that!'
.
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