- From: High Miles <2blues1723@xxxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Thu, 11 Feb 2010 17:30:52 -0600
Felix Oska wrote:
On Wed, 10 Feb 2010 19:56:09 -0600, High Miles
Evelyn wrote:When you know the truth and conceal the truth when asked, it is"Thomas Edward" <tedward@xxxxxxx> wrote in message news:ka25n592fj3s386gcqtsancvn7pj831u94@xxxxxxxxxxWay too much time required for a desperately impatient person.In a conversation with my friend Tony, from New Zealand, we spoke of
things that annoy us the most. I believe Tony has it right. He says he
can't stand those who are "Frugal with the truth". I would tend to
agree. It seems we have developed into a nation where truth and
honesty is secondary. I have had people tell me that they couldn't
tell the truth about something because "It may hurt someone's
feelings". Seems to be a take-off of "Blame someone else,it's not my
The Buddha had a perfect instruction for how we ought to speak to others. Interestingly enough it ties in closely with what the Rotary 4 way test is. I will provide you both of them. I can't think of a better way to judge whether you should say something or not. The similarity is amazing.
The Rotary 4 way test of everything we say, think and do.
1. Is it the truth?
2. Is it fair to all concerned?
3. Will it build goodwill and better friendships?
4. Will it be beneficial to all concerned?
Note; The trick is that it has to pass all four. Something can be the truth, but that doesn't always mean you should put it out there, if it is going to hurt someone else or not help anyone.
OK, now here is the Buddha's version (from a translation by Ayya Khema)
If it is not truthful and not helpful, don't say it.
If it is truthful and not helpful, don't say it.
If it is not truthful and helpful, don't say it.
If it is both truthful and helpful, wait for the right time.
Better for me to blurt what I am sure is true, if only my
own opinion, and let the chips fall.
Dancing around other people's feelings is a waste of time and energy.
tantamount to lying.
Now if only you could convince our elected officials.
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