Re: Women and the draft
- From: "Evelyn Ruut" <evelyn.ruut@xxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Wed, 31 Oct 2007 07:52:09 -0400
"Old_Timer" wrote in message news:g8kfi39e6s2bgqli7lrsgljdisc4iisdo6@xxxxxxxxxx
On Tue, 30 Oct 2007 11:31:16 -0700, thenantz@xxxxxxxxx wrote:
On Oct 30, 12:49 pm, California Poppy <GoldenStatePo...@xxxxxxx>
> Olly, as so often, I agree with you. I am a very feminine woman
no longer try to fight that. I like having a male around who wants to
take care of me. During the 60's, I tried to change and become a
woman's rights believer. I no longer believe that. I believe that
there are physical and hormonal differences between us. Sometimes
throughout history that has been emphasized. I would have been better
off in the era of the protected female.- Hide quoted text -
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Of course there are physical and hormonal differences, but what does
that have to do with a woman having enough curiosity and drive to want
to succeed in the field of her choice?
So often I hear of husbands dying and wives left not knowing anything
about the bills which need to be paid every month, how to talk to a
plumber or electrician, how to start the lawnmower, how to arrange for
regular car maintenance, etc.
I stayed home until my youngest entered school, then I learned what
the real world was all about and loved it.
If my wife outlives me she will become such a widow. Not my fault. I
have tried to get her into these activities of "Taking care of daily
life" with little success.
Three years ago when I was hospitalized for two months after falling
off of a high ladder she brought the unopened utility bills and the
check book the hospital for me to take care of them. During that
period my daughter put gas in the car for her Ma when she came home
for a visit. Fortunately, there were no automobile problems during
The yard work was hired out until I was able to do it again.
A lot of marriages follow strict divisions of labor according to traditional roles. Wife does cooking, laundry, ironing, and hubby manages the money, takes out the garbage and maintains the lawn and the cars. We have that sort of a deal around here, but I manage the bill paying and the checkbook, and he helps me with housecleaning and laundry chores. I wouldn't know how to start the lawnmower and don't really want to know. Everybody customizes the division of labor to suit themselves. I know a couple in which the woman never cooks. He does it all. I know another couple where the man does all the housecleaning... he just thinks he does a better job of it!
But I think as far as bill paying is concerned it is a VERY good idea to insist that both parties know how to maintain a checkbook and pay the bills as they come in. It would be a kindness to her if you insisted she learn. Next time you do bills, put the pen in her hand, the bill in front of her, and make her at least write the checks. Then show her where you put the paid bills and make HER do it. Make her sit down with you and do the actual check writing. You supervise, but not too much.... just guide her. It isn't rocket science, but it is a necessary life skill.
Life is strange. You never know one day to the next if you're going to be around. It is a good idea to be prepared just in case. A young woman in her early forties, (my neighbor's daughter) with a successful lawyer husband who just wrote a book and just got the last kid into college, suddenly became a widow last month. Just like that. You hear stuff like that all the time. The guy was seemingly in perfect health and dropped dead. Just keeled over.
Gassing up the car isn't all that difficult, but I do it once in a while. Hubby usually does the honors. Nonetheless, I know how to do it, and occasionally I will do it if it needs doing. I am not suggesting you suddenly make her do all your chores, but it would be a kindness to her if she was not totally lost to these simple life skills.
Tell her it is time to put on her "big girl shoes" and learn how, simply because..... "you just never know".
Show her this post...... and insist a little.
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