Re: Mom is in distress


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On Wed, 29 Aug 2007 08:18:13 -0400, "Evelyn Ruut"
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"Evelyn Ruut" <evelyn.ruut@xxxxxxxxx> wrote
You need to get her to a serious doctor for a complete gerontological
workup. Her behavior may indicate any number of possible
conditions.
Her behavior is not normal, and you probably realize that much. She
could be simply depressed or she could be in early alzheimers. The
other possibilities include mini-strokes or NPH or even something as
small as a thyroid deficiency. You need to find out which it is and
if
it requires treatment.
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Best Regards,

Evelyn
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Her behavior is no anomaly, not rare; happens all the time everywhere.
Not, necessarily "abnormal". She is trying to tell her caregivers
that
it is time for her to leave them and go to whatever may lay beyond
this
earthly realm. It is hard for the caregivers but it is part of
life.

I've experienced similar situations several times. People of that
age,
particularly in the stated condition, know more about death than the
so-called experts and professionals who prattle on about this way, and
that way, to prolong, prolong, prolong, a process that should be
allowed
to go naturally; hopefully in the way that the person themself would
want
it to go.

McDave
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Diagnosis via newsgroup is iffy at best, Dave. You don't know that any
more than you know if the guy is a faker or a troll. The woman needs
to be
examined by a doctor. If she is really and truly nearing death, a
doctor
would know that.

In the meanwhile he owes it to his mother to get her to a doctor and
find
out if it is something else. Wouldn't it be awful if the woman had a
thyroid condition and could have her life back with a little pill every
day,
and you gave the guy bad advice? You need to think carefully what you
advise people.

She could be seriously depressed and meds could help. So many
possibiities. I'd look for a specialist in gerontological medicine.
They have the training and desire to take elderly people seriously.
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And that is exactly what I advised him. Quote: "Put her under the care
of a good gerontologist. Otherwise, do everything you can to please
her, accommodate her wishes, and make her last days as pleasant as
possible. Wouldn't you want the same??? !!!"

However that fact remains thBut, it remains that a "little pill" cannot
bring back her eyesight. Cannot cure Alzeimer's. Cannot change her
mental attitude. And, it is my considered opinion that a good
gerontologist will tell him the same thing. Force feeding an aged
person to keep them alive is about the most cruel treatment imaginable.

McDave

I agree that force feeding is WRONG for an elderly person.

Please remember Dave, that there are actually some causes of dementia
which are fully reversible. Thyroid is one and Normal Pressure
Hydrocephalus is another. I shudder to think that there are actually
people who have been given up on when their problem is actually
reversible.

Of course there are many more times that it is not reversible, yet even
then, there are medications that are very helpful and can give the person
a happier life before they pass on.

In my mother in laws case, she was on antidepressants which stopped her
from crying all the time and threatening suicide, and antipsychotics which
controlled the disturbing delusions. There are also drugs which replace
some of the brain chemistry which goes awry when people get alzheimers.
It isn't the same as being normal and healthy, but if it keeps them
happier and more at peace, it is all we can hope for at the present time.
--
Best Regards,

Evelyn
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I think I agree with you. I hope to die suddenly in my sleep while still
somewhat phisically/mentally functional, as did my beloved Father. However
if I am not that lucky I would hope for the type of care you describe..
My M.I.L.'s experience was almost identical to that of your M.I.L..

But, to deal with a more immediate and pressing problem; do you think
antipsychotics, anti-depressants, brain-chemistry pills, and a
strong-coffee enema, would make any improvement in HighMileage ? ! I
fear that her entire personality has prolapsed into rusty bucket of pure
hate.

McDave
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