Re: Interesting Question; This Group; The Internet

Okay I'll try to answer some of your questions. The wife and I moved
into a seniors living accomidation about three years ago and it's
wonderful for us--both 78 y/o and in good health so far. Of the almost
100 seniors here we are the only ones who have and can operate a
computer, so if you are worried about web sites for seniors to look
up-- forget it they don't do windows at our age IMHO. What prompeted me
to get moving was the realization we could no longer handle everyday
task in our home of 47 years and four kids, steps, maintenance,
cleaning et-al. Also one of our friends mother fell and was taken to
the hospital where the doctor said she could not go home, she was
living next to her daughter and he daughter would feed mom breakfast
shower etc, and mom would walk unaided no cane over for dinner and
supper, and the daughter put her mom to bed. Doc said she could not go
home unles there was someone there 24/7 ( not 23 plus an hour for
grocery shopping ). There were two places who would accept mom but they
were both full at the time mom was to be discharged, so doc had her put
in an alzheimer home. There when the daughter visited she found mom was
being "drugged" and didn't even know her own daughter ( did before in
the hospital tho) along with the other people living there--they have
no problem with the people then, but mom didn't have alzheimer just
neded a place to go! When the daughter found one of the places she
asked and was full now had an opening --they would not take her mom as
she has alzheimers. The daughter explained her mother didn't have it
and was told she must have or they wouldn't have put her there. Mom
died there and that upset me. I liked Mom she was full of it played
bingo every chance she could and plaid 5 cards at a time, and once a
week went to the casino and played the slots sometimes winning some
times not, she was wide awake and fun before they put her away. This I
felt was wrong and I did not want us go through that !

We looked thru the "yellow pages" and called every senior living place
around, and they sent literature on what they had to offer, and we
visited many. We wanted smething locally where our old neighborhood
people were and not have to start getting acquained with a bunch of
strangers, but people who used to live in our area that we could relate
to. Also we wanted assisted living availability so the one partner who
did not need assisted living would not have to drive ( at our age in
rain and darknes et-al) to visit daily and as long as possible.

We rent ( a very reasonable price too) a three bedroom one level home (
even the toilets are raised an inch or so, makes it a lot easier to get
on and off 8-) and they have three maintenance people on call. They
wash the windows outside, scrub the carpets when you want them ( free)
and keep all utilities running fine or replace them (free), cut the
grass, shovel the snow. They have bus trips shopping every Thursday,
food and drug stores, and once a month out to a different
restaurant.One car garage attached, when it rains it's nice to just
drive in, close the overhead door and carry the groceries into the
kitchen, we cook here in the house if we don't feel like going out for
supper. It's dandy ! ! !

If one of us gets sick and need assistance henceforth we can go to the
assisted living buildings on the property and they take care of
everything baths, food, medicine taking etc it's a thousand feet from
this house-easy walking distance.

That has been our experience - rent here is cheaper than maintaining
our old 8 room house we need when the four kids were young.

.

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