Re: Hangin' out

David Bowie wrote:
John S.Colton wrote:
On Tue, 30 May 2006 12:01:20 -0000, David Bowie wrote:

Really, in the end, i'm not quite sure what the purpose of the address
was--any message seems to have gotten bogged down in critiquing a social
phenomenon that IMO doesn't need critiquing.

The message of the address, to me, seemed to be: "Don't avoid
courtship". Pure and simple.

True--except that it was critiquing courtship behaviors in trying to get
that message across.
As someone who did a lot of "hanging out" in my single years of my 20's,
it did result in a lot of pairing off. While the activities may not have
been planned with the idea of getting pairs together, the social
interaction frequently led to 1-on-1 dates, and quite a few within our
"hanging out group" ended up marrying each other. A side effect of the
"hanging out" was the friendships that emerged which still persist. For
those of us who ended up marrying outside the "hanging out group", the
friendships from the group created further friendships to welcome our
spouses in - an instant group of friends for someone moving to a new town.

David, who thinks delaying marriage a few years past mission isn't bad
Agree totally. When I consider groups of my friends who married young,
versus those of us who married a bit older, I can definitely see the
advantages in waiting until Uni is finished, and at least one partner
has a steady full time job before marriage and children enter the
equation. Yes there are lots of solid marriages started when the husband
and wife are trying to raise a family and go to uni with only a
part-time job, but I think it leads to a whole lot of heartache that
could be avoided by waiting a little longer before marriage.

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