Re: On monogamy


>"Andrew Usher" <k_over_hbarc@xxxxxxxxx> wrote in message news:88bfa0ef-6d0e-4cdb-a579-be8dd31b8e1d@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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>Andrew wrote:
> I don't think anyone can maintain that strict monogamy is natural, at
> least for men.

If certain people know they cannot remain monogamous, then
I believe they ought not make a formal vow of fidelity to that
one particular person. If one makes such a formal vow knowing
full well one cannot live up to it, then it makes that person
a liar.

Afaik, in our Western cultures, marriages are entered into
*voluntarily.* And one would think the couple knows what
they are getting into. If you make a vow, stick to it. Otherwise,
don't make one.

I realize that even during the dating period, couples tend
to lay claim on one another. However, if no formal vow
of fidelity was made, then each one remains free to do what
they will.

The only thing I ask is that if a vow is made that it be
done with a sober and sound mind, and that one is
well-informed about just what it is they are vowing.

If one or the other breaks that vow, it's broken...
each person is then free to choose what steps
to take next. They can leave and go their
seperate ways or they may choose to redo
their vows.

So, if you know you are not a monogamous
person, then do *not* commit to a monogamous
relationship. Nothing difficult about that, is it?

Heidi


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