Re: Is this a valid guide to being a good wife?

On Feb 27, 11:19 am, Jill <perspicaci...@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
On Fri, 27 Feb 2009 03:21:55 -0800 (PST), "dd...@xxxxxxxxxxxxx"

<dd...@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
On Feb 26, 3:41 pm, Masculist <MASCUL...@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
On Feb 26, 11:55 am, "dd...@xxxxxxxxxxxxx" <dd...@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
wrote:

How many of you would appreciate the services shown in this video?http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R7T6VqK3Hbs&feature=related

What?  "No right to question him"?  It ain't the Fifties anymore
Sherlock.>>

(Denise) This one piece of advice struck a jarringly false note with
me. Regardless of time period or culture, a wife should always have
the right to question her husband.

Surprisingly (maybe) but I agree with you on that point.  However,
there are ways of questioning and other ways of questioning...not all
methods are equal.  

(Denise) I'm not over surprised. "No questioning" sounds like a
robotic Stepford Wife. I agree that there are good ways of questioning
and bad ways. Too many wives nag, harangue, and belittle their
husbands. That is bad. Stating your mind in a sensible manner is good.





Marriage is teamwork and some of those suggestions were just common
sense working as a team kinds of things.  If you are a housewife than
there's things that can be done to make his wage slave existence
easier and vica versa.  The problem nowadays is the constant drumming
by the feminist media and arts about how oppressed women are no matter
what their role and how THEY should be catered to while the husband
has been demeaned and demonized.

(Denise) MOST of the advice in this video sounded good to me. It
sounded like ways to make the husband feel good when he got home and,
at the same time, make the wife feel good. Thus, a win-win for both. A
husband who comes home to a tidy place, a well-rested wife who looks
good, and the aroma of good cooking is apt to be happy. My ex-husband
didn't come home to this unfortunately. He had a disabled wife who
wasn't able to do much. I always got anxious in a kitchen because I
was so often in a kitchen when my mother was sowing the seeds of my
disability. However, for those who can follow it, this is overall a
video of good advice.

Agree again.  Because I'm not working outside the home (and won't
until the ex's hands are removed from our wallets) I make it my job to
see to it that my husband doesn't have to lift a hand around the house
or that he has reason to complain that he has no clean underwear or
that there is no supper ready when he arrives home from work.  

If I were working full time that would be impossible...by pure time
constraints he would have to be doing wash, cooking some of the meals,
vacuuming, etc.  

(Denise) The advice would have to be modified in a marriage in which
each partner engaged in paid work outside the home. However, it could
still be followed in some respects.



I believe him when he says he likes the fact that
after working 8 to 10 hours a day he can come home and just kick back.
My guess is many other men would feel the same if they had that set up
with their wives.  

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