Re: Dating Advice From Mr. Evan Dip***.


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Every now and again, when I open up yahoo!,
I am almost bombarded with articles on dating advice
from Match.com [...]. [T]he "advice" is not only aimed
just at us men but that it is always done in a patronising
way.

The patronizing-toward-men attitude indicates that this
"advice" (I agree with the writer that what's on offer
isn't really advice) is not intended to be something men
would read. The phony advice is meant to make
females feel smug and superior to men. Match.com,
like its rivals, struggles to enroll _women_ -- they've
got plenty of men signed up already.

BTW, the only similar site that has anywhere close
to a 50-50 ratio of women to men is Eharmony.com.
Why? Because Eharmony.com markets itself as a
matchmaker for people interested in _marriage_,
not as a hookup finder.

One major problem with these articles is that it is
actually blatantly sexist because it assumes
that it's always men who need the advice.

Again, those articles aren't intended to be read by men.
They're boob-bait.

[...] Then there is the kicker:
"Why do I only get approached by creeps?" You've
probably heard women say this yourself. So how
would you respond to them?
You've answered your own question, sweetness.
The guys are doing the approaching. This pre-supposes
that you are, in fact, not actually doing anything
but expecting everything to come to you.

Uh huh. That Rules Girl's behavior _selects for_ the
very sort of men she dismisses as "creeps", who are
-- by her self-fulfilling definition of "creeps" -- the men
who have shown any interest in her and approached her.

Sheesh! And so many women wonder why most men
don't respect women.

[Y]ou bloody women still won't take your heads out
of your arses and treat men with the same equal standing
as well as standards that you simply just demand? What
[...] is wrong with you, sugar? Go get me some pretzels!
It's pretty obvious you want everything while giving nothing.
Or is the giving part and parcel of having courted you
i.e. he's done all the work so now you are going to use
your sexuality as a form of control after he's done all the
hard work in risking rejection in establishing the relationship
that only now that it's comfortable to do so you want to
take over?

To ask such questions only answers them.

[The advice giver plugs himself as] "Dating coach
Evan Marc Katz is the author of the book
'Why You're Still Single: Things Your Friends
Would Tell You If You Promised Not to Get Mad'"
[a book] which contains material that exists
all over the place and which is something that is just
re-heated leftovers from some other books.

One of the many reasons books like Katz's are so lame
is that a female on the prowl for a man-slave can't keep
her promise "not to get mad" when anyone tells her
the ugly truth about her behavior and her motives. So,
the multitude of dating secrets books (a "secret" is to
most females as catnip is to cats) are full of mush
because the author fawns over, pets, and pampers
Ms. Sugar-Princess instead of giving her the truth.
Women generally are not in the market for the truth.

--
So far, women haven't really caught on
and gotten it that there's a reason to be
found in their own behavior as to why
they're often found alone or dancing with
each other. ... [N]ormal and reasonable
women have largely stood passively by
while the anti-sex, male-hating faction
of feminism has criminalized most of the
traditional male role in what used to be
called courtship, claiming to speak out
for all women against male aggression (i.e.,
initiative taking), sexual harassment (i.e.,
initiative taking beyond some fuzzy line),
date rape (you guessed it), and the like --
thus depriving women of the non-criminal
male initiative taking (but who can tell,
since it depends on the woman's subjective
feelings?) many women want.
...
Since men have such poor choices, the average
women will have to change things and "take
back the men" from the hate brigade. This
would constitute true nurturing behavior. But
it will require many women to give up the
privilege afforded by their clinging to the
traditional passive role. In doing so, they
will learn to experience the risks and costs
men used to face before their behavior got
criminalized. This is not necessarily a bad
thing for women (nor is passivity bad for men).
Just remember that it's really not men making
women change. In the meantime, however, many
men will just be content to sit on the
sidelines and watch the whole silly spectacle
from a safe distance.

"Date Fraud" by the Martian Bachelor Scientist


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