Dating Advice From Mr. Evan Dip***.

http://the-xy-variety.blogspot.com/2007/07/dating-advice-from-mr-evan-dip***.html

Every now and again, when I open up yahoo!, I am almost bombarded with
articles on dating advice from Match.com; a dating site for singles (and
you'd be a fool in thinking that only singles frequent these "dating"
sites!). But the problem I have with these articles is that the "advice" is
not only aimed just at us men but that it is always done in a patronising
way. One major problem with these articles is that it is actually blatantly
sexist because it assumes that it's always men who need the advice.

Here is the link to such shittery: Men: Meet More Women

The dating scene almost always seems like it's geared to do women a favour
assuming that it's men who have to do the impressing, and it's evident in
this opening paragraph:


To the men who are reading this article: There are a lot of women who are
very unhappy with you. Really. I know because as a dating coach, I hear
women tell me all the time in the most exasperated tone: "How come I never
meet a nice, normal guy? Why do I only get approached by creeps?" You've
probably heard women say this yourself. So how would you respond to them?


Okay, let's break this one down into its individual sexist components in the
General's style.

"To the men who are reading this article: There are a lot of women who are
very unhappy with you."

This assumes on general principle that it's men who are to blame for the
women's "beef" with manhood. The reason why is made in the following
sentence from that paragraph:

"Really. I know because as a dating coach, I hear women tell me all the time
in the most exasperated tone: "How come I never meet a nice, normal guy?"

Maybe it's because the only women who make these complaints are the ones who
always (typically) expect the "nice, normals guys" to simply fall in their
laps.
Just like everything else in life, you have to actually pull your fingers
out of your backsides and go and bloody well find them! This means doing
work! Ya know that word work, right? It's the same as what men do when we
all want something.
Sure, everyone would like all the things they want to just come to us, but
there are many people who are realistic and mature enough to know that life
simply isn't like this.

Then there is the kicker:

"Why do I only get approached by creeps?" You've probably heard women say
this yourself. So how would you respond to them?"

You've answered your own question, sweetness. The guys are doing the
approaching. This pre-supposes that you are, in fact, not actually doing
anything but expecting everything to come to you.
Is everyone supposed to take this *** seriously?
How would I respond to them? It's pretty obvious really: Women have demanded
the right for equal treatment, standing and opportunities, etc, as men but
you bloody women still won't take your heads out of your arses and treat men
with the same equal standing as well as standards that you simply just
demand? What the *** is wrong with you, sugar? Go get me some pretzels!
It's pretty obvious you want everything while giving nothing. Or is the
giving part and parcel of having courted you i.e. he's done all the work so
now you are going to use your sexuality as a form of control after he's done
all the hard work in risking rejection in establishing the relationship that
only now that it's comfortable to do so you want to take over?

*** off!

Second paragraph of sexist propaganda:


I'm guessing it's something like: "Nice guys are afraid of rejection,
don't
want to bother you when you're out, and are generally more concerned with
the consequences of being embarrassed than with actually meeting you." It
may be true, but, as truth goes, it's a pretty sad state of affairs. What's
easy to forget is that most women want to be approached by you. By not
approaching, you're letting them down and allowing the creeps to take their
shot. Follow these lessons and the next time you're out, maybe you'll prove
that nice guys don't finish last.

First of all he arrogantly assumes himself to be a dating coach which he
uses to put himself upon a pedestal of all that is dating knowledge, but he
opens up here with his brilliant acumen with "I'm guessing it's something
like..."
Seriously, mate, if you're guessing then I and everyone else do not need you
for coaching advice; we all have the ability to guess for ourselves.

"Nice guys are afraid of rejection, don't want to bother you when you're
out, and are generally more concerned with the consequences of being
embarrassed than with actually meeting you."

Ahem-hem-hem! Yeah, sure! The gender mostly responsible for bringing you
modern day civilisation from the building blocks of Empires forged from
thousands and thousands of years of brutal wars is going to be afraid of
rejection from the opposite gender because of...embarrassment. If men are
really pre-occupied with shyness nothing that has gone in past would ever
have happened.
The reason why "nice guys" are not bold in the face of rejection is not
because of shyness or fear of rejection, it's because he doesn't want to be
slapped in the face with accusations of harassment, especially this being a
fact in this article. That may be an isolated incident, but it's very
typical as a reason for men to think twice about just jumping in as women
expect us to do.

"It may be true, but, as truth goes, it's a pretty sad state of affairs.
What's easy to forget is that most women want to be approached by you. By
not approaching, you're letting them down and allowing the creeps to take
their shot."

No, by letting them down I am assuming full control in letting the women
know that they are simply not good enough for me and that the "creeps" (by
the way, define what you fucking mean by "creeps". Guys who make the first
moves?!!! Contradicting yourself there, dip***!) are simply welcome to
them. But saying my inaction to greet her first is the cause that every
other man in the room wants her is only false flattery. Is she a superstar
actress/model etc? Probably not. So why assume every man, if not me, wants
her? Contrary to what an idiot like you thinks, not every man is going to
find the same woman attractive.
If not, then I can assume the same petty excuse that she should come to me
otherwise all the "creepy" women will come to me instead. But only then does
that statement sound arrogant because it's a man making it!!!

Then we get to the actual "advice" which is paragraph after paragraph of
pretty much the same old patronising claptrap. Actually, some of it is
pretty useful, but the whole point is that it's nothing more than a way for
some author to plug his book (as evidenced with the end sign off message
"Dating coach Evan Marc Katz is the author of the book 'Why You're Still
Single: Things Your Friends Would Tell You If You Promised Not to Get Mad'")
which contains material that exists all over the place and which is
something that is just re-heated leftovers from some other books.
And the real reason why these stupid articles exist all over the place ready
to patronise men and usually only men is that it helps promote a dating site
that tries to encourage men, by grabbing their underconfidence, to sign up
for free without knowing that you actually have to pay a membership fee if
you want to make contact. All at the same time while they give women an
almost totally free membership.

Why?

It's usually the same policy with nightclubs in that men are charged an
entrance fee while women are let in free to "make up the numbers" and all
because they assume that men only go out to clubs to shag some old bird but
not actually because men might want to go out for a night of fun and letting
one's hair down without necessarily having to involve women.

But this (piss)article is for an actual dating site. If that be the case,
and if I were to take Evan Dip***'s advice to heart, then why in the hell
would I want to join an online dating site if the dating "advice" he has
given only applies (by its very nature) to a real time one-to-one scenario?

Oh dear! The bull*** radar went right off the scale with this post, lemme
tell you! lmao

posted by General Kurt ¤ Permalink ¤


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~ A man needs a woman like a lion needs a stove. ~

~ Women deserve only equal opportunity, not equal outcomes. ~

~ Men are not collectively "guilty" of anything. ~

~ Never needing to be pregnant is a blessing. ~

~ Feminist ideology "men have to respect women, but women have no reason to
respect men" ~

~ Everybody makes choices, and nobody should be entitled to special
treatment because of those choices.
Equal results based on unequal treatment amounts to no kind of equality at
all. ~



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