subservient brides?


Consider how often the accusation "You just want
a woman who will be subservient to you!" is
carelessly thrown around to shame the men here,
especially when the topic of foreign brides is
brought up. Now consider how exceedingly rare
it is for any US man whose culture is the American
one to recruit a bride from another country who
practices the Mohammedan religion. Such a
woman would be highly likely to have been
conditioned (a word feminists like to use to
excuse choices women make that feminists
don't like) to be very subservient to her man,
at least that's the stereotype of such women that
feminists promote.

Yet where American men commonly search
for brides overseas are places such as Russia
or the Philippines, places whose people raise
their girls to be at least as emotionally strong
women as Americans do. So, obviously we
can conclude that the feminist accusation that
what men in general (or among those who are
regulars in this happy little news group
specifically) want is _not_ the feminist
stereotype of the subservient foreign woman.

--
I hope more men will stand up on- and off-line
to speak their truths. You'll have to persevere,
guys. To be heard over the jeers and hissing
and the put-downs, you'll have to hang in there
just as Asa Baber did in a heroic, but failed,
attempt to be heard in his public debate with
Susan Faludi in 1992.

"Men, Women and "The Net": Missed Understanding
and The Possibility of Reconciliation"
Copyright © 1997 by Richard Prosapio, MSW
This article appears in Vol. 1 #1 (Winter 1998)
of Men's Voices journal.
http://www.menweb.org/dpinet.htm




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