Re: Forbes article was spot on about not marrying Career Women

Look, the fundamental error in this line of thinking is the ASSUMPTION
that men are somehow entitled to work and develop a career while women
are SUPPOSED to stay home. What about men who don't make enough money
to support a family on their own? What about couple who don't want
kids? Even more simply... what about men and women who LIKE that their
partners have a job?!? It is ignorant to make the logical leap that men
should get to have a career while women, we think, should WANT to
commit their lives to raising the kids, cleaning the bathroom, doing
the laundry, maybe getting in a few hours of hourly work at the craft
shop.

This all comes from the traditional worldview that men are providers
and women are helpless beings who need to be protected and need to
nurture all the young'uns. This is why we have a world full of men who
have been raised by women, not by families, which, I would argue, has
led to many of the social problems that we experience today.

I do not have statistics on hand as to the prevalence of drug and
alcohol use by housewives in the 50s, but have you ever heard of
'mama's little helper'? There's a reason phrases like this came about,
and it's not because lots of women DIDN'T use drugs. I agree that
working women also use lots of drugs today, especially psychological
medications. But no more than men use them (or at least no more than
men SHOULD use them. Plenty of statistics show that mental illness goes
far more undiagnosed in men than in women because of the way men are
socialized to consider mental illness a weakness, versus women, who are
more likely to seek help.)

As a man myself, we need to be able to get over our egos and admit that
maybe we are not the 'noble protector and provider' that we are sold.
Maybe this was true in the stone age, when our biology and physical
size made it more effective for us to be out hunting, while females
nursed the children. But in today's industrializd, technological
society, there is just no need to for such a short-sighted and
oppressive worldview.

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