Re: Male Bonding...

In article <11m3hshb2t8rkec@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>,
Society@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx says...
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> "Mark Borgerson" <mborgerson.at.comcast.net> wrote in message
> news:MPG.1dca8efa7216eee5989ffa@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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> > Society says...
> >>
> >> Heidi Graw wrote...
> >> >
> >> > Mark Borgerson asks:
> >> >
> >> > * What are the things that bond men together [...]
> >> >
> >> > Ah yes....that much vaunted brotherhood of man!
> >> > ;-) What is it that bonds men together?
> >> > I suppose [...]
> >>
> >> I suppose you and Borgerson haven't discovered
> >> Lionel Tiger's work _Men in Groups_, eh?
> >> www.amazon.ca/exec/obidos/ASIN/0765805987/menwebA
> >
> > I haven't read that one. I'll check the local Border's store.
> >
> > Tiger's earlier work "The Decline of Males" [...]
>
> Nope, _Men in Groups_ preceded that by about
> two decades.

Ah, well---if "Men In Groups" is 20 years old, I may not find
it at Borders after all.
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> Oh, and you and Heidi might find Warren Farrell's
> discussion on hazing in his book _The Myth of
> Male Power_ (are you familiar with _that_ one? ;-)
> useful as a description of one sort of "bonding"
> between men and a sociological interpretation
> of the social function hazing serves.

Yes, I've read that one, and also "Why Women Can't Hear
what Men Don't Say", and "Why Men Earn More..." The latter
book pretty well lays to rest all the arguments about the
pay gap. It also hypothesizes that the gap will decrease,
not because of legislation, but because more men will put a
higher priority on things other than work:

Why Men Earn More pg. 142

"My projection is that by 2020, approximately 70% of dads will have
responsibilities that are significantly divided between work and
home. Making use of the gift of working women, then, involves
treating women as pioneers in helping companies adapt to the divided
responsibilities that will be twenty-first-century reality. It also
involves helping employees understand why someone whith divided
responsibilities cannot be paid as much as someone whose
responsibilities are more fully focused on work."


I made that decision (to spend more time with my family) about
8 years ago---and I'm glad of it.


Mark Borgerson


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