Re: Is it OK to be rude to people ?
- From: roy.stockdill@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx ("Roy Stockdill")
- Date: Fri, 8 Sep 2006 09:45:59 +0000 (UTC)
From: "Steve Bamford" <steve@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
I must admit this has become something of a bee in my bonnet recently
because I've been rather shocked by the tone of some responses here -
not I should say addressed to me personally. I have made some
genealogical enquiries to this group in the past, to which I've had
some very helpful replies, and I'm grateful for this. However reading
some to my mind abusive posts has put me off doing so again. I
realise it's only a minority of people but it can still create an
unpleasant atmosphere. And yes, it does present a dilemma - should I
be prepared to risk possible abuse from certain experts in order to
benefit from their wisdom? I think for me the answer is no - I'd
rather look elsewhere for guidance.>
For pete's sake, stop being so precious and prissy! I don't know whether I
am one of the experts to whom you are referring, though I don't recall
responding to one of your posts. However, as Liz pointed out, I have
been known to be abrasive on the odd occasion (well, perhaps more than
the odd occasion!). However, the most experienced regulars here know
this and know that, as a blunt-speaking Yorkshireman, I don't suffer fools
gladly, especially those who ask for "look-ups" that they could easily do
for themselves if they only took the trouble to learn and took the advice of
those of us who have been at genealogy a long time.
However, I get heartily sick of this modern political correctness that says
you must never offend anybody. Part of freedom of speech and freedom
of expression must include the right to offend now and then, otherwise
we may as well all crawl into a hole, put a zipper across our mouths and
never utter another dicky bird! What was it Harry S Truman said? "If you
can't stand the heat, then you should stay out of the kitchen." So
sometimes people lose their cool and go over the top, are a bit rude now
and then. So what? It happens in life and in all walks of life. It's no worse
than going down the pub and having a bit of banter with your mates in
which you call each other names. After all, if you can't insult your friends
who can you insult?
I am sorry to put it bluntly but shrinking violets and over-sensitive folks
should either lighten up and acquire a sense of humour or perhaps take
up some other hobby, like flower arranging. If you do as Liz suggests and
learn how to filter out the chaff and ignore those messages you consider
to be rude, then you can emerge with your sensitivities preserved and
perhaps pick up some wisdom along the way.
--
Roy Stockdill
Guild of One-Name Studies: www.one-name.org
Newbies' Guide to Genealogy & Family History:
www.genuki.org.uk/gs/Newbie.html
"There is only one thing in the world worse than being talked about,
and that is not being talked about."
OSCAR WILDE
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