Parenting and Princesses
- From: Ilya Shambat <ibshambat@xxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Fri, 27 Apr 2012 21:52:59 -0700 (PDT)
In academic and popular psychology there has been a lot of attack on
the women that get termed as "princesses." This attack is wrong, and
for a very good reason.
What is a princess? A princess is a woman - typically a young woman -
whose parents loved her and took care of her. That is a good practice
and one that should be rewarded rather than attacked. There should be
a motivation for parents to love their children, and for that parental
love to lead to good outcomes. It is better that parents love their
children than not love their children, and this positive practice
deserves to be incentivized.
Yes, there are many people whose parents had been less loving who have
envy of people whose parents had been more loving. In the same way,
many people who are poor envy people who are rich. The constructive
solution to wealth inequality is not making the wealthy poorer; it is
making the poor wealthier. And the constructive solution to parenting
inequality is not attacking the loving parents but making other
parents more loving.
The attacks on some women being princesses should be dealt with in the
same way as are attacks on some people being rich. The problem is not
with the loving parents; the problem is that many other parents are
not as loving as they need to be. To reward and incentivize parental
love - and confront the lack of it - would do wonders for everyone.
And the more parents are loving, the better the lot of the children
and consequently adults.
Being a loving parent is not a matter of resources; it is a matter of
attitude. A poor parent can be a loving parent as much as can a
wealthy parent. Parents in all social mileus should be loving, and
that attitude should be rewarded. And this will lead to more people
being brought up in a loving environment and more people knowing how
to love.
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