Re: NYC: Hasidic actor walks off Portman movie

"cindys" <cstein1@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> writes:
<moshes@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
"cindys" <cstein1@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> writes:
"Eli Grubman" <eli.grubman@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message

It must happen all the time, insofar as you have any interactions at
all with the "secular world". How do you deal with such instances?
Are you, for instance, allowed to smile as you explain why you can't
shake hands?

When I saw this question i said to myself "There is no way Cindy
will answer him". I see I was half-right.

I answered for the sake of other people. Not for him.

I realized that. That's why I said "half".

(But why did you snip the whole prior thread?)

It's cumbersome to keep scrolling through this lengthy thread. Aren't
you the one who always complains when someone doesn't snip enough? :-)
The entire thread is there (multiple times) for anyone who wants to
read it. I limited myself to addressing the question.

That's what I get for not proofreading before I hit "send". There
_should_ have been a "n't" after the "did". IOW I _was_ complaining
that you did _not_ snip enough in your original post.

I find that odd. To say "my religion prohibits shaking hands" without
saying it's _only_ between men and women is patently false. And easily
demonstrated to be false.

It's the approach of least resistance. No one is going to check it out.

But if they ever see a religious man shake hands with a man, and it
is a quite likely occurance, you will lose your credibility.

The point (for people who use this approach) is not to educate but
rather to evade the handshake as painlessly as possible without
having to go into lengthy explanations.

The explanantion need not be lengthy. ("I only touch my wife, we both
prefer it that way")

Other people may have other approaches. I am not suggesting these
are the only two, but I guess in a way they are. One either shakes
the person's hand or not.

The question is what to _say_ if you don't shake hands. One method I
sometimes use is "It's OK, I _believe_ you".

No offense, but if I were the person with the extended hand, and
someone responded that way, I would be confused.

There are (at least) two situations which call for a handshake. An
introduction (Dick, meet Jane) or an agreement (let's shake on it).
I was refering to the latter.

Moshe Schorr
It is a tremendous Mitzvah to always be happy! - Reb Nachman of Breslov
The home and family are the center of Judaism, *not* the synagogue.
Disclaimer: Nothing here necessarily reflects the opinion of Hebrew University
.

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