Advice/comments requested
- From: whoknows_be@xxxxxxxx
- Date: 23 Dec 2005 18:05:37 -0800
I am a 50 year old white male, single, never married, no dependents. A
friend of mine and former colleague in the same profession is a UK-born
south asian woman, 30, married but separated since Sept. 2005 (her
white European husband has left her) whom I have known since early
2000. She has no kids. We worked closely together in the same firm
until Sept 2004 when I left to take a job with an other firm, but we
still often keep in touch. We are both expats working and living in
Europe. I was very surprised to learn of her separation from her
spouse 4 months ago. I attended her (Hindu) wedding in the UK in 2002.
I am very fond of her. We have been out to dinner a few times over the
past few months, dates which I invited her on and which she seemed
happy to accept. I have done this out of a desire to see her and also
to try to help her cope with her current situation. If her marriage
continues to deteriorate and results in divorce, I am uncertain whether
I should make my true feelings known to her. This is partly due to the
large age gap between us, and partly due to the intercultural dimension
(although I would say that's less significant since to me she's
culturally more British than anything else but is ethnically South
Asian). I suspect she sees me as a friendly and sympathetic male
colleague, and not more. I don't want to alientate her from me by
making her aware of my feelings about her.
I am seeking advice and/or comments from readers of this newsgroup
about this situation.
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