Re: Both halves of a couple?

Jason Parker-Burlingham wrote: 
Ben <no.email.sorry@xxxxxxxxxxx> writes:

Someone I know refers jokingly (and loudly) to men who aren't
sufficiently interested in football as "puffs". He says that the word
has diverged from its queer origins, and is now a content-free
derogatory term for men of any orientation who don't fit his vision of
the male stereotype.

I have not yet found the courage to refute this argument publically. 


As if mocking other men for not being "manly" enough isn't homophobic
and sexist at its core, no matter what words are used!  What a goof.

I don't know whether it offends me more as a queer person or as someone who likes to ignore gender-based stereotypes. In fact, one could say that my orientation is primarily towards other people who ignore gender-based stereotypes, so it's quite a comprehensive insult.

However, this person believes that if you feel offended at something, that's really your own responsibility. The fact that he didn't _intend_ to slight any queer people is sufficient to absolve him of any guilt.


Ben.
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