Re: Murder 1


dave hillstrom wrote:
On 25 Jul 2006 07:00:47 -0700, "Marcia" <design1@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
wrote:

LOL. Good luck on that one. My husband pestered me about it for years
(also orgies and swinging). I'm just *not* that kind of girl. :)

marcia

i dont need the group sex thing anymore. i lived every mans dream
senior year in college, coming home to find my gf and her best friend
in bed waiting for me every other day for 3 months, and gf waiting for
me on the off days. most of what i remember is a haze of pleasure.
and it nearly killed me from exhaustion. truth!

I believe you. lol. Good thing guys have a short refractory period at
that age. ;)


i also know that ten nekked people do not fit on a king sized
waterbed, as every minute or so you hear a THUMP from someone falling
off. the ensuing giggling effects the rhythm ~drastically~.

I've always found it difficult to *establish* a rhythm on a waterbed...
they're not very springy!


these things and more i know. and im glad i had the experiences, as i
dont need to try and talk anyone into it now.

DH seems to have given up on that, too; blood pressure meds may have
something to do with it.

He belonged to a swinger's club when he was single, and went with a
female friend he had some kind of strange quasi-sexual relationship
with. I got as far as the club parking lot before chickening out.

Intellectually, I understand the appeal of total hedonism (what DH
claims as his religion). But personally, I don't find sex with a bunch
of strangers appealing, and I'd never be convinced at least one of them
wasn't harboring a disease.

i also learned a great
deal about myself. that i can be bisensual, but im definitely
heterosexual. you just dont know if youll want a penis until youre
faced with it up close and personal. ;> and teh same goes for teh
vaginas.

Are you saying you actually inspect a woman's vagina before deciding
whether to "go for it"? [bemused] Out of curiosity, what would make the
situation a no-go? :)


and all i want now is teh one girlie to be wif, and snuggle, and ***,
and giggle, and cook, and sing to, and read Just So stories to, and
stuff. though i think ill wait a bit for that.

That sounds nice. :) I didn't date (by choice) for about a year
between the guy I lived with and DH. Great year. I was new to the area,
but my roommate had a lot of friends who included me in their
activities. By the end of the year, my feelings about the old boyfriend
and the break-up were pretty much sorted out, the anger was gone, and I
was comfortable being alone, so there wasn't a lot of baggage to haul
into the next relationship. I think the time off helped.


i suppose id do friend sex, if there was an emotional bond, but terms
would have to outlined up front so no one ended up hurt, most of all
me. been there, done that, have the psychic scars.

I don't know if it's possible to outline terms that guarantee not
getting hurt; it's always a risk, not matter what you agree on upfront,
because you don't know how physical intimacy might change your feelings
or the other person's. The fear I would have is losing the friend
because sex made the relationship weird. OTOH, I tend to develop sexual
attraction to the guys I'm friends with, so the friendship is either
not platonic for long, or ends very quickly--or both. lol. Speaking in
the present tense, but thinking of my single years.

i fall pretty
easy. thankfully, these days, i also get over it reasonably quickly,
a change from the past, though im not sure if its better or
worsererer.

I dunno either. Sounds more like infatuation than love, though, if you
fall that quickly and get over it that easily. I think love takes time
to develop, and is based on a real understanding and acceptance of the
other person, including their flaws (because you may have to live with
those for the rest of your life!).


there you have it. a pile of Too Much Information. nyah.

....which I have archived for future use, like when I build my stalker
Dave Hillstrom website. ;)

I like your openness. You're an interesting person, and this isn't Too
Much Information on my end--have you crawled under your computer desk?
:)

Besides, now you've got a bunch on me, so we're even. nyah! :-p

marcia

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