Re: Question for the parents (subj: kids playing rough)

On Dec 17, 3:51 pm, E. F. Hokie <efho...@xxxxxxxx> wrote:
On Wed, 17 Dec 2008 05:58:41 -0800 (PST), CheeseHusker dos wrote...
On Dec 16, 9:15 pm, E. F. Hokie <efho...@xxxxxxxx> wrote:
Today while horsing around a bit (they run up and tackle, etc), Aly
reacted oddly to a bump on the arm and informed me that it was sore.  I
asked her why it was sore, and she said 'Dylan punched me at school.'

As you might guess from the name, Dylan is of the male persuasion.

I know this particular little rakehell... he's mischievous and large for
his age, and is getting into trouble rather often.  He's nice enough, I
suppose... or so I thought until I learned that he'd apparently punched
a little girl - my little girl - on the arm.

I asked my daughter who she had told, and she said no one.

Now... here's the dilemma.  Were this a case of my son perhaps having an
issue with another boy at school, unless he *couldn't* handle it, I'd
let him learn to do so... lest he become that kid whose parents raise
Hell over every tiny thing, who is ostracized as a result.  This seems
to me be quite different, though.  Hitting girls is just plain out.

I am debating between speaking with the teacher and speaking with
Dylan's father... and not having much luck making up my mind.  Thoughts?

Age makes a difference - how old is Aly now?

Prepare to feel old, as I suspect you remember my post announcing her
birth.  She's eight.


As if turning 45 wasn't bad enough...

Also, take a cue from your daughter's demeanor - I'm not pooh poohing
things here - but she's "telling" you she didn't think it was a "big
deal" - if only b/c she hadn't told you about this earlier.....

You may have a point there... hard to say. She doesn't like to tattle.

This is a tough one....one thing I've found for *me*, is to merely
listen when my kids relate something like this from school - if I
react at all - good/bad/indifferent, I find they're not as likely to
share in the future - and I'm therefore less likely to learn.

Note - this is highly personalized - YMMV - just a thought
tho....plus, you'll know it IS important when she does come right out
and tell you....this is a brutally hard aspect of parenting - learning
when to push for info - and when to trust that they'll tell you when
something's important - and how to cultivate a relationship where they
feel comfortable sharing with you....

Now, if you'll pardon me, I've got to get back to cleaning out my
shotgun as required of all fathers of 8th grade girls....

Heh.

Thinking right above the front door is a good spot to hang it, don't
you?
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