Re: another frustrating thing about girls.....

mianderson <clayabc@xxxxxxxxxx> writes:
background: About 16 months or so ago I hooked up with an ASU
nursing student(maybe 20/21 years old at the time) just after I broke
up with the exgf but before I started dating beth seriously. A one
night stand for the most part. She was cute and everything, but
conversation with her was mediocre at best....there just wasn't
anything about this girl that made me think she had any
qualities(besides being cute) that I would want to date her for. Then
a month or so after that when I was free I call her or email her
basically asking if she wants to drop by to hook up again. She goes
on this story about how she likes me but is looking for more than just
sex in a relationship and blah blah blah.....I lost her there pretty
much. Then 4 or so months later(when I actually was dating beth) she
emails me about how she'd like to see me again. I was a little ticked
because:

1) my offer 4 months ago wasn't a "let's get together sometime" type
of thing. It was a "if you want to hook up TNITE come over and we
can...I'm free" type of message. You can't take a raincheck on that
kind of offer.
2) She had obviously decided that she was going to say no to a no-
strings attached hookup(which was fine w/ me, it's not like there
werent 20 girls just like her and just as forgetable) in the hopes
that I would break down and take her on a real date or something
eventually.......ummm no.
3) When she did contact me again 4 months later it wasn't even clear
that she was agreeing to the terms of my original proposal(ie come
over to my house and hook up).

So anyways I shot her an email telling her I was seeing someone and
that was that. But for whatever reason I'm on her mass email list(you
know that people send out stupid forwarded jokes to and stuff), so she
was still contacting me indirectly that way every month or so.

Fast forward to the present- two days ago she emails me(not a
forwarded type of message) and tells me she graduated from ASU with a
BS in nursing and is working at university hospital as an rn(as if I
care?) and wants to know how I'm doing and everything. I emailed
yesterday a standard email about what I'm up to and that was that.
Then she emails me back today about how exciting things seem for
me(ummm....actually they're not) and how we should get together
tommorrow and 'catch up'(catch up on what?)

So I'm actually wondering if this girl is *again* trying to get a date/
start up something real with me.....if she is she's beyond
delusional. even if she wants to just come over and hook up
again(which is all I was even considering > 1 yr ago with this girl),
I'm not all that into it because she passed on it 16 months ago so
what makes her want to agree to those terms now. I have a feeling if
she does come over and we hook up she's want to go somewhere with me
next time, or she'll act like that's going to be her way to start a
relationship with me. So I think I'm going to have to pass on the
offer....

I just love these mianderson screeds, I could read 'em
for hours.

Anyway, mia--my take is that she got your message loud
and clear the first time, so she knows it'll just be another
one night stand, but she can't come right out and say that
because it would be unladylike. So if you don't have anything
better going on some night just ask her again if she wants
to come over and hook up.

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