Re: Why enright, slick, jaros, etc are wrong on the child support/alimony angle......


Mercellus Bohren wrote:
mianderson@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx wrote:

blah and blah

She knew that whether it worked out or not she would be ok.

more blah and blah

So, you have asked her about this? How do you know her mind wasn't
clouded with thoughts of love and lust, and a long marriage with
someone, never anticipating the splitup later.

Cue the "well it's obvious response.."

No, it's not obvious, mr oblivious.

Well, it is obvious. Was she in love with him? I'm sure she was. But
clearly part of the reason she married him(in addition to liking him
and having a good rapport with him and such) is that she wanted a nice
house, wanted to send her kids to good private schools, wanted to do
all those sorts of things. If she knew there was a chance 15 yrs later
that security would dissapear and she couldn't control it, that
probably tips the scale in the other direction.



Here's an example from the real-world:

My brother-in-law is a good man. He pays his child support on time and
does his best to see his kid whenever he can. They got married too
young and, as it happens all too often, kids get married, then grow
apart as they mature. He and his former wife have a wonderful little
girl who is doing well in high school.

Thing is: My brother in law doesn't make much money see


so if he doesn't make much money his payments shouldn't be all that
high. Everyone has a different definition of 'not much money', but if
he's making 50k or so it isn't like he's paying 2400/mo.


, and he has
been hard pressed at times to make child support each month because his
payments far exceed his ability to pay and have any sort of life for
himself, let alone save for other things. He has gotten a lawyer (with
what? I don't know, he has no money for a lawyer.) and has filed
appeals to get his monthly payments lowered. No chance.

well what are his payments?



As for his former wife, she lives fairly comfortably with her parents,
and they pretty much take care of the kid. They go to Florida a couple
of times a year for a couple of weeks on vacation, when she visits us
she always is wearing the latest clothes, has a nice computer.
Grandparents pay for a lot of this of course.

and things like clothes, computers, etc cost a good bit of money. it's
great that the grandparents can help out as well, but shouldn't your
brother be helping out with things like computers and clothes and
educational expenses? It's not like the kid is demanding a new
beamer......



The bad part about all of this is that getting into this sort of
contractual agreement with a person is almost like getting put into
prison. You may get out, but you will be stuck in the system forever.

And dude, grow some balls and be on the man's side for a change.

I'm on the man's side of a lot of things..........and sometimes I do
agree with the man's case in terms of child support/alimony. But you
have to keep in mind this newsgroup has a ridiculous perspective on
this issue because....well it is virtually 100% male and many of the
males in here have payed child support or alimony at one time or
another. So it's not surprising to see the results.....



And lastly, your *** is getting boring.

well I'm not an entertainer. I'm not trying to make you laugh.....

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