Re: The game is up


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Yowie wrote:

Shadow was once again returned to us after another spectacular escape 2
days
ago.

She was found at the nearby creek by the very same woman who found her
the
first time she escaped (the creek runs along one side of the commonly
used
shortcut to the corner store).

Perhaps there's now a pattern emerging.

Its quite clear that Shadow was at one time wild, as she can have a
quite a
feral nature on occasiona (less and less as time goes by, but tis still
there). But, on the same token, she also knew that at least some humans
were
kind. I still suspect an abusive past. For both the last time and this
time
she ran away, i thougth we'd had a real 'break through' the day before.
Both
days before, she spent all night with me on my bed. She was purring,
kneading and even drooling whilst she was showered with pettins, luvvins
and
'baby talk' from me throughout the night.

But int he morning - WOOSH! Out the door she ran, obviously back to
wehre
she can be a 'wild' cat again (a half persian pure white cat with a very
fluffy coat has no business being 'wild' but she doesn't know that)

This is very much like the way she used to luuuuurv getting pettins up
until
a point and then she'd just turn and attack.

If she gets up on my bed another time, I'm going to have to ignore her,
despite the great temptation to shower luvvins upon her again. Perhaps
she's
teaching me that *not* giving is sometimes better than giving too much
:-)

LOL, I notice that this message was posted *after* the one about being
"givers" taking in waifs. Hmm... :)

Maybe she has commitment phobia? She lets her guard down, gets some love,
discovers she really enjoys it, and suddenly becomes terrified of what it
all means? Will she be trapped, unable to do what she likes, whenever she
likes? Maybe she's a boy after all. :)

OY! It's not about being a boy.

If we adopt a cat as an adult we do not know what they've had to tolerate
before we got them.
Boyfriend was very difficult, it took me months of feeding to get him from
outside into the house, and years before I could shut the door because he
needed to escape at the slightest touch of human danger, like the doorbell
ringing.
He definitely had a commitment phobia, plus a "not being able to get out the
house" phobia
He wanted to trust me, but was afraid to.
It took 5 years before I could close the door without him panicking about
not being able to get out - and then he began to come on my knee - but it
all had to be quiet and silent before he would do it.
Now he's 7, he is so confident with me, he bullies me for food, jumps on my
knee and kneads me into submission and is quite happy with a closed door, he
will just go upstairs and sleep on the duvet in the spare bedroom until the
door is open again.
I did suspect an abusive past for Boyfie and that's why he was so shy, but
really I cannot imagine anyone being so sick in the head to hurt such a
beautiful soul.
He is perfectly housetrained, he is so gentle he has no idea how to scratch
or bite, when I picked him up for the first time he just dangled saying "Oh,
no, don't pick me up, it scares me."
Now if that had been KFC she would have said. "Pick me up? In your dreams"
And if you had you'd have witnessed her million claws in your face.
I could pick her up - if she wanted me to - and if she did she would rub her
face on mine and tell me I should do this more often. Until I dd it again
and she wasn't in the mood for it, then the face slash. When she did this,
hanging on to my eyebrow in her bad mood I knocked her off and said "just
you dare do that again you are a dead cat, Kitty.."
She didn't do it again. Never has since either.

Tweed














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