Re: I Could Use Some Purrs (OT)...Purrs On The Way
- From: ":-\)Liz" <wldwzzy@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Sat, 20 Dec 2008 01:02:06 -0600
I can so relate to you!....I'm dealing with a great deal of CR*P
alone(dealing with Mother's estate and I too am the executor)...with major
hoops to jump through, doing it alone while my sister parties in Vegas and
has a life. Sadly the lawyer I hired has been less than helpful...latest
thing, he misinterpreted the will and what I'd been working to achieve isn't
doable now...I'll purr for you if you'll purr for me...
I'd like to have one day to just have things go smoothly and I'd like to be
able to keep a meal down and sleep.... Hang In There Girl!
"jmcquown" <j_mcquown@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
news:6r2sjkFf51s5U1@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
With everything else going on, like a dear friend whose death is imminent,
I feel rather selfish asking for purrs for myself. The purrs are for my
nerves.
Here's the deal. My mother left me her house. I've been unemployed for
quite some time and she was concerned about me winding up living on the
street. Well, when my middle brother found out about that he pitched a
fit. He kept going on and on about how unfair it was, I get the house
therefore I "get" more of the estate than he and my oldest brother. So
for a while I acquiesed. I said fine, I'll sell the house and we'll split
the proceeds.
But then he told me I should give away the framed leather cut-outs
depicting the Thai legend of Lightning to that Thai restaurant. He
practically promised them to this place, told them to expect a blonde
chick to come in and give them to them. Oh, and he also told a bartender
he got friendly with at the hotel I'd give some tea cups to the tea shop
where she works at during the day. How nice of you to keep giving things
away like that!
Then he kept saying I could buy a house outright, back in Memphis for
about $120,000. I have no idea what planet he lives on. You can't buy a
house for that little money and have any expectation of living in a safe
neighborhood. Not that Memphis is exactly safe to begin with... you don't
leave your car doors unlocked, that's for sure.
I should mention I'm the executor of the estate. So I've been doing all
this paperwork, dealing with accounts, tracking down insurance, etc,
taking the estate through probate. There's tons of stuff to be done and
I'm doing it all by myself. All he did was show up for the funeral and
then start giving me a hard time about stuff.
When they were here for the funeral he suggested I contact the Parris
Island (Marine Corps Recruiting Station) where my father retired, to see
if they might like his dress blues, some books about Marine Corps history,
for their museum. I did donate that stuff to them. I sent him and email
saying they were thrilled with the donation. He pitched a fit. He called
the lawyer and left them a message saying I'm disposing of property
belonging to the estate "without permission". Um, excuse me, it was your
friggin idea. And Dad always said he wanted me to have all of his
military stuff anyway; my brothers showed absolutely no interest in what
he did. Me, I asked him questions about it.
When I found out he'd called the lawyer about this petty crap after trying
to get me to give stuff to some bartender and a Thai restaurant I said
screw this. Enough is enough. I'm keeping the house. Mom wanted me to
have it. I gave up the last 14 months of my life to come here and help
her, first with my father and then simply to take care of her. I'm the
one who made sure the bills were paid. I'm the one who found her a doctor
who would make house calls, nurses and physical therapists who came to the
house to work with her. I'm the one who found caregivers to come in so
she could be bathed, her hair washed, etc. I arranged her funeral. I'm
the one who has done all the work. And who continues to do all the work.
My brother thinks because I'm unemployed it was a breeze for me to pick up
and come 700+ miles away from the place I've lived since 1973. Away from
everyone and everything I'm familiar with. What he doesn't get is if I'd
been I'd been working I'd have quit my job and dropped everything in a
heartbeat the moment Mom said "I need your help."
So I told them I'm keeping the house. And once again he pitched a fit.
He called, said he's going to hire a lawyer and contest the Will. He
claims she wasn't in her right mind when she had it drawn up.
I've been talking with her lawyer. He said my brother is nuts, if he
wants to drag this thing through the courts he's welcome to. But my
mother was perfectly sane when he met with her and she was perfectly clear
about what she wanted done with the estate. The house (per South Carolina
law) was legally mine on 11/22, the moment she died.
The lawyer said he'd call and set my brother straight. There's nothing he
can do about it and I'm under no legal obligation to sell the house. And
even if I do sell it, I'm under no obligation to give him any of the
money. So cut it out and start acting like an adult instead of a petulant
child who didn't get his way.
Anyway, I could stand some purrs for my nerves. I'm already not sleeping
well and I have a feeling I won't be getting any until this is all
settled. Thanks, folks :)
Jill
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