Re: Help Me

Good minds run together, cat or dog idea. It really sounds good and either
can be good company. I talk so much to these three someone on the outside
would think I had a houseful of company sometimes. They each have the kind
of music they like and If I put the wrong thing on, someone will tell me
about it.
"Bobblespin" <bobble@xxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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jmcquown wrote:
~*LiveLoveLaugh*~ wrote:
Who do you have there to check in on Mom? Can that person take your
mom out a few times for something fun/different? I read the others
posts, and I agree... she can't *expect* you to drop everything
every time she gets lonely. This will get better... hang in there,
Jill!!

She's simply not used to living alone. I, on the other hand, relish
living
alone. I like the peace & quiet. I enjoy sitting by myself. I always
felt
I had to be "on", entertaining her. Running errands and shopping and so
on.

I love living alone. She simply isn't used to it. She never did it.
She
went from living with her parents to living with my father and then
having
kids. She was never alone. I don't think of alone as "lonely".

I'm not ready to pick up this week and go back to SC. Sorry, it's not
going
to happen.

Jill

You've done more than your share. If you weren't single you wouldn't have
been able to spend all that time with her, so she's very lucky that you
did. She had other children, so she needs to lean on them too. There will
be tears, but that's ok, they're healing, don't let them sway you. My
mother cried every day for 2 years after my father died. That was 20
years ago and she survived very nicely. You can talk on the phone every
day if she wants to. You don't have to be there with her.

As others have suggested, perhaps it's time she moved into a retirement
community, away from the memories of her empty house. Or what about an
older cat or rescue dog to keep her company? Fostering is a possibility
too. Could she volunteer somewhere to give her a change of scenery and a
reason to get up in the morning? Just ideas I had...

Bobble


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