Re: Help Me

Bobblespin wrote:
jmcquown wrote:
~*LiveLoveLaugh*~ wrote:
Who do you have there to check in on Mom? Can that person take your
mom out a few times for something fun/different? I read the others
posts, and I agree... she can't *expect* you to drop everything
every time she gets lonely. This will get better... hang in there,
Jill!!

She's simply not used to living alone. I, on the other hand, relish
living alone. I like the peace & quiet. I enjoy sitting by myself.
I always felt I had to be "on", entertaining her. Running errands
and shopping and so on.

I love living alone. She simply isn't used to it. She never did
it. She went from living with her parents to living with my father
and then having kids. She was never alone. I don't think of alone
as "lonely".

I'm not ready to pick up this week and go back to SC. Sorry, it's
not going to happen.

Jill

You've done more than your share. If you weren't single you wouldn't
have been able to spend all that time with her, so she's very lucky
that you did. She had other children, so she needs to lean on them
too. There will be tears, but that's ok, they're healing, don't let
them sway you. My mother cried every day for 2 years after my
father died. That was 20 years ago and she survived very nicely. You
can talk on the phone every day if she wants to. You don't have to be
there with her.

As others have suggested, perhaps it's time she moved into a
retirement community, away from the memories of her empty house. Or
what about an older cat or rescue dog to keep her company? Fostering
is a possibility too. Could she volunteer somewhere to give her a
change of scenery and a reason to get up in the morning? Just ideas I
had...

Bobble

I must say she's not used to living alone. I quite like it.

I asked her if she wants a pet. Her parents adored my parakeet when we
moved to Thailand :) They loved having a bird. Apparently she's not so
keen on the idea.

Jill


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