Re: Real Life

And Pam I'd be right there helping her and then give you a big hug.
Love, lots of love,
Charleen


"Yowie" <yowie9644.DIESPAMDIE@xxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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tanadashoes wrote:
"Yowie" <yowie9644.DIESPAMDIE@xxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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I'm thinking of Charleen especially here, but others have been
through the same thing, and I also speak from experience myself.

As much as we share on this here NG and other electronic media, other
people are not privvy to the minutaie of the situation, or our
lives, our relationships with our cats, and indeed, the personality
of the people or pets themselves.


Yowie, sorry to cut your post here, but I don't do well with over all
pictures. Too ADHD, I suppose. I read your post and am now going
over my own actions of the past month or two and am finding myself
wanting. I'm sorry for being bossy, demanding, and second guessing
everyone that I've done that to. I'm sorry for being crude, rude,
and hateful. While I didn't tell Charleen that she handled Four
wrong (She did the only thing she could have in the situation) I
didn't add as much visible support as I could have. I'm sorry for
that. Charleen found herself in an unenviable position and did
better than most of us would have. I wish I had done more to support
her. Just as I could and can do more to support others who are stuck
between a rock and a hard place.

Oh no you don't.

My post was exactly about this. You did your best juggling all the things
you have to juggle in your life. You cannot go back and make decisions
with the benefit of hindsight, no-one can. That is my point. You can only
do the best you can do *at the time* and thats it. Thinking back and
berating yourself with "I could have done better" is like kicking yourself
when you are already down. Don't do it, Pam. I know you too darn well to
let you kick yourself like that - I know damn well you *did* do your best
in the last two months and I wont have anyone - inlcuding you - say
otherwise. Otherwise I'll have to come over there and beat you about the
head with a smoked kipper till you call Uncle. So there.

Yowie



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