Re: [OT] Re-do question
- From: "Yowie" <yowie9644.DIESPAMDIE@xxxxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Tue, 11 Oct 2005 10:03:05 +1000
"CatNipped" <lcrews@xxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
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> OK, I know everyone would like the chance to go back and do some things
> differently, knowing what we know now. My question is, how far back would
> you go? What pivotal point in your life would you like to start from?
>
> For me it would be the fifth grade and I would change everything I did
> from
> that point onwards. Fifth grade was when I got so frustrated with school
> that I just quit trying to get all As. I'd start from there, get all As
> in
> school and then get a scholarship for a *good* college. Of course I would
> not marry the abusive alcoholic... but that brings up another issue - if I
> hadn't married the abusive alcoholic then I wouldn't have my children and
> grandchildren. In fact if I changed anything at all I wouldn't have all
> the
> good things I have in my life today.
>
> So let me amend the question - first, would you give up what you have now
> to
> go back and change your life? Then, if so, from what point would that be?
Like many others, where I am now is entirely dependant on previous events...
if they hadn't happened they way they did, I wouldn'tbe married to Joel, and
would have Cary.
That being said, however, I'd have liked ot have been more assertive at
school. Perhaps I should have repeated a year when I was 11, because I was
*so* not ready for highschool, emotionally, but apparantly they thought if I
repeated, I would have suffered academically. Perhaps I should have repeated
at a different school.
Moving on, I shouldn'thave moved in with my ex when I was 17. In fact, he
was just a giant mistake, except for the fact he is directly respnsible for
me meeting first Shmogg and then Joel. I would have been far more
financially secure if he hadn't been around to suck all my money, not to
mention the emotional scars etc etc.
The other few things I'd change is not trying half heartedly to kill myself
in 1990, because there is a scar on my left wrist which I'm deeply ashamed
of and can't get rid of. Yes, that was because of my ex. Did I mention he
was a giant mistake?
I think I would have liked to have kids earlier too. But Joel was only 20
when I met him (I was 26), and he certainly wasn't ready to have kids then.
Nor would we had been able to buy a house had we had kids.
So all in all, I'm pretty happy with the way things turned out, even if they
aren't "perfect".
Yowie
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