Re: OT: Bumped into old friend...


Cos360° wrote:
Let's call her M, haven't seen here in maybe two years . Used to hang out a
fair bit; we got along pretty well I guess we had a fair bit in common
relative to the rest of the group we hung out with. She was also reasonably
attractive, espcially her eyes, deep grey colour. Real amazing eyes.
Probably a bit short for my liking but she was definetly qutie attractive.

I started dating my current girlfriend about two years ago and M was one of
those girls who just didn't take too well to my not being single. Which was
sad, cause I actually quite enjoyed her company...but I guess she figured
there was probably potential for a lot more between us. Needless to say, she
stopped talking to me within a month of my starting to date my current
girlfriend.

Did she even make a move or drop any real hints about where you could
go as an item before you got your current girl? Otherwise, what's her
issue with you being hooked up with someone else? Saying that, I have
male friends who just don't like me being with someone, whether they
are/have been attracted to me or not (in most cases, not). So I get
guys who I thought I had long broken away from getting hold of my phone
numbers and they call me at home, just to "chat", knowing that it'll
drive my husband crazy. He's not the jealous type at all, but I know
it drives him mad, especially when it's not even like a flattering
thing that men are attracted to his wife - because they're not, these
guys could do way "better" than me in the looks department (although I
don't personally adhere to that kind of bul*** heirarchy anymore), and
certainly aren't looking for someone to settle down with. ***, some
of these guys I would've jumped at the chance to "conquer" back in the
day, but they weren't interested until I got that ring on my finger. I
guess some people are jealous not because of your relationship, but
maybe because they hate the thought that you're not there should they
ever need to fall back on you. I also have a few girlfriends who
haven't bothered to call in this whole time I've been with my man
(knocking on 3 years), because they think they need to keep their
distance from a relationship, which is nuts, because I'm not exactly
housebound, but oh well, I just have more fun with my other girls :)


Anway...I bumped into M at the train station this evening. The girl looked a
mess...she was dressed really shabbily and worst of all, she'd lost about 20
pounds (which is significant, considering she probably weighed about 110
pounds before). I am not really sure what's happened with her, if it had
been anyone else I would just assumed that she was on drugs or something.
But I am reasnably sure she wouldn't do drugs...although I won't surprised
if I am wrong (going by the way she looked). I made the mistake of
commenting on her weight-loss and she made a huge issue out of it. She asked
me directly if I liked her better before she lost the weight, I avoided
answering (I know not to answer those sort of questions from women)...she
finally made me agree that she looked stronger before losing the weight.
Made me think that she's probably got an eating disorder...it still wouldn't
explain how shabby her clothes looked.

She claims that she has lost a family member and has had a lot going on in
her personal life.I just hope she's not in any sort of trouble or something.
She was always a little strange when I knew her but it's probably one of the
aspects of her personality I actually really liked it. She's really a nice
girl...the sort of girl I wish I'd stay close friends with two years ago but
just sort of lost contact with. I am tempted to call mutual friends of ours
but I really have this thing against gossiping about others and I think it
would come across as gossip if I talked to anyone else about it. She gave me
the impression that she hasn't been hanging out with anyone we both
know...so making calls would probably not lead too much.

I'd call the friend...It doesn't have to be a gossip thing, it's not
gossip if you're genuinely concerned. Also, people don't just dump
*all* of their friends in one go, chances are someone might still be in
touch with her, or have been in touch with her longer than you.


Man, just think of her makes me feel real bad. I really wish I could do
something to help...Not sure what to do.

- Kwaj

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