Re: for the women in my life.....

On Jun 2, 12:15 am, takver <ragb...@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
On Jun 1, 10:44 am, Kevin McClave <kmccl...@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx>
wrote:



I will dasm well speak out about things that I see are wrong. It's the
"grown up" thing to do.

I will too. And have. Constantly.Without a whole hell of a lot of it
mattering one little bit.

Ok. I am right now sitting here and shaking with rage. Let me tell
you why. Spent a lot of time with a friend of mine today who has a
brilliant physically disabled wheelchair using daughter who is now 17.
She recently told her mom that a couple of years ago several boys in
her school ( I think the number was three) backed her into a corner in
school and molested her. I am, believe me, not making this up.
Friend's daughter was afraid to report those kids back then because
she felt like she would be more of an outsider than she already is and
she was embarrassed. She and her mom reported it this year and the
boys were called in and admitted to doing it Their punishment?
Apologizing. They were told to apologize. Friend's kid has wisely gone
into counseling at the womens crisis center to deal with what she has
been holding in for two years. A friend of my daughter-another kid-
was smacked around by a boyfriend who was trying to break up with
her.. she refused to leave his car and he grabbed her and hit her and
threw her out. She is in counseling and he is not. Either are the
other friend's daughters monster attackers. I have known about my
daughter's friends car situation for a while now, but hearing this
today brings it back again.A friend of another daughter was cornered
by guys in middle school and one of them rub his pubic hair on her
face. That was reported immediately and those kids were expelled. I
was date raped in college. I said no, he said yes and physically
asserted himself, I gave in. Of course I didn't report it. We lived on
a small campus in a small town and I had to see him and his friends
everyday. Plus, part of me felt guilty for being "hung up" or
"uptight" or something. He used those expressions . It was 1971. I was
5'7"and weighed 118 pounds -he was 6'2" and weighed about 180. I
didn't have a lot of choice
You know what else? These stories are *not* unusual. Most women my age
have had at least an attempt at some guy going farther than she wanted
him to go. Many women my age have been hit by men at least a couple of
times. I am now wondering if my youngest kid's increased stress level
of late is due to something more than pre-college jitters. She broke
up with her boyfriend recently and won't really talk about it. [I will
mention at this juncture that my other daughter's boyfriend is one of
my favorite humans , is gentle and as much of a feminist as my
daughter and I are ( he thinks many of you folks are in deep denial
about confronting your own intrinsic sexism , BTW) he rocks.] I and
adore the fine men in my life but I have all this knowledge that makes
me wonder about what it is about young men that would cause three of
them to grab a wheelchair bound childs breasts while yelling
obscenities at her. I have never ever met a young woman who would do
anything like that.

Cinch up your pants, grow up and start realizing that all of you men-
all of you-enjoy male priveledge and have no clue what it is like to
be a woman. Admitting that is the first step towards true
understanding. We can't make it without you, you know- We can't
overthrow the system that produces monsters. We don't have the power.
A few years back I was helping a physically disabled friend up a
flight of stairs and I was ranting about how this building should be
wheel chair accessible etc. and she said something I will never
forget , she said " Go out and advocate for that... I am too busy
trying to get up the stairs".

Angry? Distrustful of men? You bet. Aren't you? And if not , how come?
As far as I am concerned all of you offended by feminist anger can go
jump off of a very large cliff. You don't deserve to live on the
planet. You don't deserve *us*. If you ain't with us, you are agin us.
Just like Dubya said about terrorists. I know a lot of terrorists
personally it seems. They all have penises.

Ruth, over and out.

.

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