Re: Third fight/near-fight situation in 3 weeks

On 17 apr, 06:57, fli...@xxxxxxxxx wrote:
I had it with those idiots. I don't go about picking up fights, but it
seems there's something about me that makes them pick them up with me.
Perhaps being foreign, perhaps my disciplined upbringing that made me
a little mild-mannered and soft-spoken, or my small size.

I was in a fight a couple of weeks ago. After it I promised I won't be
having fights again. I don't want injuries resulting from some fight
with some dip***, and injuries are always a realistic risk, if not
from a person, them from his bunch of buddies. Yet last week someone
grabbed me by the chin out of the blue 'cos the idiot thought I was
hitting on him, as in gay bull***, wtf, and I sure wasn't (no offense
meant to the gays, I sure empathise with them after this situation and
I'd probably stand up for them if some random idiot wants to beat up a
gay person). And then again today I tried to calm a fight situation,
out of my experience a couple of weeks ago, and the aggressor then
turned towards me and tried to intimidate me and boss me about and
said "you're next!" if I didn't do what he said. A sort of no good
deed goes unpunished.

Here's the deal. When in such situations I can't back off. Though now
a Western Atheist I grew up in an Arab-Islamic tribal desert
situation, where personal honour is everything; you gotta be polite
and generous to all but if someone is an aggressor towards you you
never accept it and to hell with everything else. You see all those
insurgent guys going suicidal in Iraq? I don't take pride in it, and I
regret that it's messing up that country, but I know that if I'm faced
with half a dozen guys being unjust to me for no provocation
whatsoever, as happened two weeks ago, I'm sure not one to turn around
and run away (I guess some would say this is what I should do; well,
it's not that easy, in my experience an attempt at de-escalation is
usually seen as a sign of fear and leads to further aggression, sort
of when you tell someone to calm down they take it as a license to
kick off some more, exactly as happened tonight, whereas counter-
intimidation, though risky, could deter).

I also noticed that two weeks ago while those guys were hitting me
with must've been their maximal force, that left my bones aching for a
week after, I was very careful to never harm them. I'd say when I hit
them back I was hitting with practically 10% of my maximal force. I'm
serious. Why? not sure. I never want to cause anyone an injury. Though
I sort of wanted to promise myself afterwards that if someone would
hit me hard as if not holding back at all that I'd hit back as hard as
I could.

I'm now realising that, to hell with all my other priorities, a
martial art is a top priority for me. I don't want to harm people, but
I don't want my teeth smashed or my face scarred either. There sure
are a lot of idiot cocks walking about starting up some bull*** once
they'd downed a pint or two.

Perhaps not even a martial art, but some sort of self defense. Summer
is coming up, the weather is heating up, the girls are stripping off,
the idiots are getting drunk and their testosterone is boiling as they
show off they "I'm the top dog!" attitude. At this rate I'll probably
be in a fight sometime soon though I sure as hell don't want to, I
don't wanna beat up anybody and I don't wanna be beaten up.

What do you suggest that I could do with some urgency? Guns, knives
and such weapons are not an acceptable option in the UK. I need some
from of self-defense.

I'm not going to read all that. You're just making it up anyway.

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