Re: BJJ & Gayness...

On Sun, 19 Feb 2006 00:48:11 +0100, Jacob Andersen <secret@xxxxxxxxxx>
wrote:

On Wed, 15 Feb 2006 15:06:32 +0000, Rabid Weasel wrote:

We do this all the time in class. When somebody makes somebody tap,
it's like "make him his bitch".

Think about why this particular turn of phrase is selected instead of
something else (like, "I made him my pizza delivery boy!").

Because being made someones "bitch" is more disagreeable, and as such
being forced to it is a greater humiliation.

/Jacob

OK, now -that- does bother me. Case in point.

My friend is very hot headed and doesn't mind shouting like a banshee at
his wife for even minor fskups. But in the next 10 seconds, he's over it
and things are fine.

But he's never yelled at me, even when I instigate, or pick at him.
(usually it's the small things that set him off).

But this summer, he screamed at me over drinking some juice after a bike
ride. Don't know what set him off.

He knows I'm laid back, but for him to scream at me was tantamount, to me,
of him trying to make me his bitch, just like he does to his wife.

I didn't stand for it and told him to fsk off with that *** and when he
screamed again, I left and stopped talking to him for about three months.
He knows better to scream at me (he never screams at his male friends). I
think he just got too familiar with me. He eventually apologized profusely
and we're friends again, but he knows better than to do that ***, unless
of course I really do something bad, like wreck his car or slam his finger
in the door. Then, sure, that warrents a freak-out.

The other odd thing is that with this one friend of his he's very into all
that name calling and ***, in fact every email they exchange involves
about three lines of calling each other 'gay as fsk' and stuff like that. I
think it signifies that they're very close friends more than anything, cuz
they laugh when they do it. (though I have wondered from time to time if
his friend isn't hinting...but anyway...lol).

But he never does that with me. In fact we have a really close
relationship, but it feels inappropriate to talk that way - guess it's a
sign of respect or something. His other friend is his age, I'm 5 years
older so he sees me as a big brother mostly.

Anyway, fwiw. Don't wanna give the impression that guys are complex or
anything... ;-)

-B

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