Re: A Message for Susan Polgar's Real Friends

On Jul 30, 8:30 am, Brian Lafferty <blaffe...@xxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Brian Lafferty wrote:
Susan Polgar has done a great deal for scholastic chess in the United
States. She knows very little other than chess.  This makes her easy
prey for those who would manipulate her for their own ends.  Given what
is known about the methods used by her father to make her study long
hours of chess and little but chess as a child, her codependency on her
husband Paul Truong is as understandable as it is unfortunate.  This
codependency now threatens to destroy much of the good will and positive
achievements Ms. Polgar has created over the years. Will her true
friends allow her to let Mr. Truong drag her down with him?  I sincerely
hope not.

To Ms. Polgar's true friends and family, not her apologists, I plead
with you to consider ways to reach Susan with the message that her
codependent relationship with Mr. Truong is destroying her.  Now that
the evidence is mounting hat Mr. Truong is little more than a huckster
and con man who has caught the Polgar meal ticket, I hope her friends
can help her divest herself of this relationship before all is lost.

Her friends might consider reading and giving to her a copy of Beyond
Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time (Paperback)
by Melody Beattie.  From the blurb for the book:

 From Library Journal
Codependency is a term applying not only to the spouses of alcoholics
and drug abusers, but to any "person who has let someone else's behavior
affect him or her, and is obsessed with controlling that person's
behavior." In her best-selling Codependent No More , and now here,
Beattie draws on her own experience and on the insights developed by a
whole U.S. subculture devoted to treatment and to participation in
12-step programs such as AA and Al-Anon. There are a lot of books
circulating in this subculture, but Beattie reaches out to the mass
market. She covers the usual codependency topics--oneself and one's
needs, family of origin, intimacy, boundaries, conflict resolution,
children, relationships, and relapse or recycle--but places them all in
the infrequently considered context of how to keep going with a recovery
process once it's begun.
- Janice Dunham, John Jay Coll. Lib., New York

I would add the TTU most probably offers counseling service that can
help break the cycle of codependency that threatens to destroy her.

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    (rec.games.chess.politics)
  • Re: A Message for Susan Polgars Real Friends
    ... Given what is known about the methods used by her father to make her study long hours of chess and little but chess as a child, her codependency on her husband Paul Truong is as understandable as it is unfortunate. ... To Ms. Polgar's true friends and family, not her apologists, I plead with you to consider ways to reach Susan with the message that her codependent relationship with Mr. Truong is destroying her. ...
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