Re: OT: At what age did you leave your parents house?

On Mar 27 2007 4:47 PM, pokerchimp wrote:

On Mar 27 2007 6:22 PM, Alan Gilbert aka brewmaster wrote:

On Mar 27 2007 3:15 PM, bjgkaraoke@xxxxxxx wrote:

On Mar 27, 1:25�pm, Mrs. LHE <43082...@xxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
On Mar 27 2007 4:33 PM, pokerchimp wrote:

I DON't see anything wrong with young people or old people joining
together as a family unit to keep costs down and improve their style
of
living, if they need to and as long as they get along. For some it
may
be
a matter of laziness, but for others, it's just practical. no way a
young
person could could afford to make a downpayment on a home after
college.
Staying with parents allows you to save. Even if you don't
contribute
fiancially, you should be doing more than your share of the cooking,
cleaning and other chores, and always be respectful to your parents.

thumbers on stars, dieseldyke on absolute/vegaspoker24/7

Same here, pokerchimp. I lived with my parents for a long time, but it
wasn't
like I was just bumming off of them. I had worked full time since I
was
16, and
never asked them for any money. Some may say I was indirectly taking
their
money because I was living under their roof and eating their food
(occasionally
- I was rarely home anyway between my job and social life), but I
certainly did
my share around the house. Now that I am writing more about it, I
remember now
that I did pay the household phone and cable bill.

My boys are only 3 and 4, and they can stay as long as they want as far
as
we're
concerned. My husband didn't move out of his parents' house until he
was
34.
He had a college degree and a good job, and staying with his parents
enabled him
to save up enough money for a nice down payment on his first house.
Our
living
at home also enabled us to pay cash for our wedding and honeymoon, and
to
pay
off our credit cards before we had kids so that we could afford my
staying
home
with them.

I never understood the concept of a parent booting a kid out just
because
they
turn a certain age. There's nothing wrong with parents giving their
children a
leg up on life, letting them wait until they're a bit established
before
they go
out on their own. Hell, it's tough enough as it is when you are
established.
So what's the rush? I won't feel a need to kick my kids out just
because
their
age is the magic number of 18, 21 or 25 (or even 30+). I'm their
mother,
no
matter how old they are. (Now, this is coming from someone who was a
bit
of a
mama's girl, so consider the source.)

If they're not working and not contributing to the household, that's an
entirely
different thing. It's also a different thing when they're ready to get
married
and start a family. Then it is time to leave the nest. But if they're
single,
going to school and/or working, and helping around the house, then I
really
don't see the big deal.

- Mrs. E

P.S. I like Harrison's idea of saving his kids' rent money for wedding
costs or
a down payment on a home.

Good post, Mrs. E. I agree with both you and Chimp on this issue.
Another thing to consider is that some parents might need a child to
live with them to help with expenses and chores. There are possible
benefits to both grown children and their parents if they share a
house.

Other races and nationalities don't seem to feel that different
generations sharing a home carries a stigma. For instance, I know
some Mexican families who have no problem sharing their homes with
several different generations. Also, Asian families tend to work and
live together. This custom strengthens and benefits all the members
of the families, for the most part.

It's too bad more people don't realize this. If they did, we'd
probably see less homeless people on our streets.

Myself, I'm in the process of getting a house in North Carolina, next
to my youngest Son. I plan to live there eventually and can count on
him to help me as I age and become more dependent.

If we can't depend on our family to help us when we need help. they
we're really in trouble. I'm grateful I can depend on mine when I
need them and they know from experience that they can count on me.

Barbara Gallamore

Yeah, but we don't need to all live together. It is all I can do to
handle ONE other person being around all the time. The kids are grown,
get out and let me have some time alone for the rest of my life. We
didn't have a very close family.

That's too bad brew. I lucked out with a fabulous family. I am not that
close with my brother, but I am with my sister-in-law. My parents are the
nuts. They have been very married 54 years. My father only retired 2
years ago. We never thought he would, but then my brother bought them the
house They are like two kids on their honeymoon. There was always a lot
of love in our house. I know that my brother and i, at 52 and 48, and my
2 nephews, are absolutely their number one prioityin life.
thumbers on stars, dieseldyke on absolute/vegaspoker24/7

Don't get me wrong, my parents loved each other, and loved us two kids.
We just have never been a kissy huggy close family. I work right about a
mile from where my sister lives, and she works mostly at home, but I have
seen her only once in the last 6 months (we went out to dinner). That is
fine with both of us. Before my parents died I saw them about once a
month...took the kids down and visited for an hour or two. I also spoke
to my dad about once a week before he died. That was enough. We got
along great, but I was grown, my sister was grown, my parents got their
lives back. Good enough for all of us. Of course, I have cousins that
live close (I drive past their house on the way home every day) and I
haven't seen them in 3 years. Not that I dislike them...I actually like
them very much. I just really have no need to be around "loved ones" most
of the time. I have my girlfriend around, which I love, and my kids come
every few weeks now that they are grown. The only thing I REALLY miss is
seeing my daughter since she is growing up so far away now.

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