Re: OT: It Really Could Be Worse...

well....horrible and devastating as this story is...actually it could be
worse.
The most horrific truth of all is, It can Always Be Worse.

Bad enough, God knows, to be evicxted thru no fault of one's own...but a
diagnosis of bone cancer, say, at the same time could put the "mere"
loss of a place to live in a much diferent perspective.

Right this moment, somewhere, someone is just learning that he, his
wife, one of his kids, is dying of some god-awful disease. And this is
regardless of how much or how little money, property, job, no job he/she
has.

Im not saying a person facing homelessness should dance with Joy,
believe me. YES, it is wrong, horrible, tragic.

But I still cant help but think....when you get that letter, phone call,
whatever, you could just as easily be hearing news MUCH worse than, "You
have until such and such a date to vacate these premises."

It happens to somebody every minute of every day.

I have this sort of superstitious fear of ever saying, "it CANT get
worse!"

Oh yes, it can. it always can. Everything really IS relative. Getting
evicted VS winning the Lotto truly sucks Getting evicted VS learning
you have a brain tumor aint so bad.

Across the board, what is True is, Bad Things Do Happen to Good People.
It sucks, but there it is.

I find, in my own life, that sometimes I HAVE to sort of take a mental
inventory by comparing whatever IS to what COULD be, better or worse
than what IS, to even begin to see anything in perspective.

By this I mean...for instance, I have an annual income of just over 12
thousand dollars a year. That's below "poverety" level. So, with this
being True, I CAN feel "bad". On the other hand, tho, my home and the
beautiful acre of land it sits upon is paid for! I am one of the 1 or 2
% of folks who live mortgage free. So, I can be "happy".

Im 58 and widowed, alone...so, I CAN be "sad". On the other hand, I get
to wake up when I please, go to bed when I please, clean my house or let
it get messy, watch whatever I want to on TV....sleep with my dogs oin
the bed with no one saying "you spoil those damn dogs!"...and be
"happy".

My whole family is dead, mom, dad, brother, aunts, uncles, son,
husband...so I CAN be "sad". On the other hand, I have NO family to
alter my behavior for! LOL! There's nobody to "impress" with my
"goodness" and nobody to dissapoint with my "badness"....If I suddenly
decide to become a crack-smokin, gamblin, whiskey drinkin Madam of a
Whore House....there is nooody who will call to say I am an
embarrassment to the familly!

Do you see what I mean? ALL kinds of truly bad stuff happens to
everybody. I think everybody needs to run their own inventory of How It
Is and compare it to How It Could Be, to make the decision whether to be
sad or happy.

It IS, untimately a Choice.

Getting evicted sucks. But not as bad as say, brain cancer or the
abduction of your child or losing both legs in a car crash or.....fill
in the blank.

Pennyaline refers to "us" and "we", indicating she has a mate and or
kids....she didnt mention anyone being sick or disabled....indicating
that while she IS losing her home, she is neither alone nor battling
chronic disease in her immediate family. I feel compelled to say to
her, PLEASE dont say "How could it be worse"!

It's....tempting Fate. Dont "ask" for something worse just to help you
realize that losing a rental house aint even close to "worst".

I KNOW this is a wrong time to say, "Cout your Blessings!". But
jeeeeze...count your blessings. You rented that house...you can go rent
another. You havent been the victim of a fire, lost your legs in a car
wreck, had your kid dissapear or learned you/your mate has cancer. It
COULD be worse.
In fact, IF this is the "worst" thing that ever happens to you, and I
hope it WILL BE,.... you are one lucky lady.

All Things are Relative.

LassChance


Re: OT: It Really Could Be Worse...

Group: rec.food.cooking Date: Tue, Nov 25, 2008, 7:26pm (EST+5) From:
wayneboatwright@xxxxxxxxxxx (Wayne Boatwright)
On Mon 24 Nov 2008 03:02:17p, Pennyaline told us...
Really? How could it be worse? After years of faithfully paying my rent
here on time and not a dime short, plus after a couple of years of
trying to persuade my landlord to negotiate a purchase agreement with
me, we got notice by certified mail last week that my landlord defaulted
on the mortgage months ago and the place goes for auction on December
17th. Because everyone is dumping their property and renting as an
alternative, the stock of available rental units is low and their prices
are through the roof. I'm looking at 50 - 100% higher rent prices than I
was paying only a month ago, most of them on houses with shifty
mortgages! How could I trust them to do the right thing even if I could
afford to pay them? How long before we find ourselves evicted again?
I can't afford to buy this house out of foreclosure because the first
loan amount (from the still-hey days of 2006) is outrageous and there
were more loans put on it after that. I can't afford to buy other
available homes because prices in this area have yet to come down, and
other foreclosure and preforeclosure properties around here get grabbed
up by realtors and returned to the market for gazillions -- still! Never
mind what's actually owed or what they're the property is actually
valued at. The realtors want to make the sale and the mega-commission,
and that's all the care about. They're still playing the game, hoping
buyers will consider themselves lucky.
Meanwhile, displaced renters are the pig in the middle. We can't stay
but we can't go, and we'll never enjoy the break that both the defaulted
owner and the impatient seller will see. There is no legal recourse,
even though this has become pandemic and renters are being left out in
the cold nationwide.
A spokesperson for the trustee company handling this foreclosure has
tried to reassure me that it's not because of anything I did and that I
shouldn't feel bad about it. Shouldn't feel bad? What else is there to
feel at a time like this? Eight days before Christmas, we're out of here
no matter what. What does the Sun Times article's author have to say
about that?
That's absolutely horrible! It would have to be devastating to get that
kind of news out of the blue, especially when it's no fault of your own.
I wish I knew of some recourse you could take. Gawd, that's literally
like being tossed out on the street.
I'm so sorry!
--
                                                        Way**********************************************

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